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#Dharma Dharma and Nyay: This, as narrated in Quora gave a very different perspective to life. Also what a person who is truly steeped in Indian culture and values will do. Slightly concise view. A boy and a girl married early in their 20s.
Wife was 21 , husband was 24 when they got married in mid '80s. We don't know what went wrong at delivery time she had some complications and became almost all insane. No one was in a position to look after the baby. DiLnot in a position to recognise her husband, Mil or kid.
After few months of treatment, her parents side people said she won't become normal, she doesn't have parents and they are not ready to spend money on her treatment. They advised the boy to remarry and they are ready to give a signed willing letter on her behalf.
This happened in 1986. The narrator, a Lady, came to know about this only one decade back. They have seen the family but never knew the story behind .
Girl's mother in law and narrator's Mil are friends -

Some advised the boy to remarry, some advised to give the child for adoption. So many advises it seems. Finally all the suggestions are to get rid of his wife by putting her into a mental asylum and like.
Then the boy's mother told the boy: ‘Once you are married to her she is your responsibility life long. Your luck is like that. You have to face your karmaphalam of previous birth. You also have kid. I won't let you abandon my Dil."
"You are my only son not even touched twenty-five years. I don't tell you to live like this your entire life. Explain your situation to someone you like. But make it clear she can't take the place of your wife or her rights."
"She can't become your second wife. She should be your need based partner. Make arrangements like that. I don't tell you to forgo your biological needs.

If you want to follow celibacy I will be more happy. But it's not that easy."
"If you get fed up you will be waiting for your wife's death. Which is not correct. You are her husband not a boy friend. It's your duty to take care of her till she is alive."
Give some financial security to that other lady but definitely she can't sit in your innocent wife’s place. Just because (your wife) is mentally challenged I won't let you to snatch her rights. ..."
"...So tomorrow your son should not think any thing disrespectful about you and your sick wife. He should not think it's ok to leave spouse if they fall sick or out of use. He should still have faith in marriage."
"She found some one. explained the situation , gave it in writing what that lady is going to get,etc how she can't take her Dil's place etc." That 'other' Lady turned out to be a gem of a Lady and the MiL treats her with affection.
The narrator asked her MiL: "What is the meaning of all this?" Her MIL said: "There is ‘dharma’ and ‘nyay'. Righteousness and justice. Justice won't change with time and depending on human. It's equal to every one..."
"..But dharma is not like that. It will change with each individual and each situation. That's why you can't ask ‘when she or he did why can't I do? When it is correct that time, why not now?"
What about the DiL's rights? Her MiL: "just because my Dil is bedridden and not in her senses doesn't she have any rights? If it happens to my son will I give same advice to my Dil to get rid of her husband?? Never! So he is also not allowed to leave his wife."
According to MiL, she did not cheat anyone, she made it clear everything, her son and she salutes the other lady and said her it seems, only after her Dil (dies) only she can have her place in their house as Dil,
"...till then she will be treated with respect but can't be given her place. So she was not kept in dark. That lady was not helpless one, to get trapped for money or something. She is working in a school. All respect the "other" Lady a lot.
Story now: "Now their son (of mentally challenged Lady) is in his twenties. He respects his dad, his sick mom who could not even recognise him and the ‘other lady' who is no less than his own mother to him.
I join the narrator in asking this question: Is it possible always to be happy with what they have? What more they want?
Final touch: Unless her (the mentally challenged Lady;s) husband feeds, his wife won't eat food it seems! Though she won't recognise him. With such a love he feeds and takes care of her. Lots of money has been spent on her treatment.
She recognises her Mil and husband just by face. Not by any relation or with any memories. She hardly had two years married life"
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Tagging few handles: @SassyShweta_@SriRamya21 @HelloNNewman @Sundaramchitra2 @ExSecular @mayfair1958 @khanna248
@JustPunforfun May be you will like this.
Thread. @ShefVaidya Normally I don't tag you - but this true incident is mind blowing. This touches upon Dharma and Nyaya as viewed by a Mother in Law. This is what makes me proud of India and her Dharma! Would be wonderful if you would read and share. Dhanyosmi 🙏🙏🙏
@NandiniVenkate3 @wataboutery - May be you would like this.
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