If you would like to help make Dove Orchids something tangible and sustainable, please consider sharing about it with your non-autistic friends, family, co-workers, peers.

We had a great response from the autistic community but now are trying to get ourselves out there.
I totally get that it isn't exciting to retweet stuff about Dove Orchids over & over again but the only way we can start sustaining ourselves is by people sharing who we are and what we do. We're still getting our footing.

Consider following @DoveOrchids DoveOrchids.com
@DoveOrchids I will also say this - the number of autistic people who don't want to get paid because they're doing work for autistic people or it's for a good cause, is astounding.

Autistic people - you deserve to be paid! For doing work! Stop negotiating yourselves out of money, please!
Autistic people are valuable. Autistic people deserve to be paid.

When I'm saying the words "autistic people" I'm referring to you, the autistic person reading this!

Yes, You deserve to be paid for your work. Period.
So many of us to work for free to help others that it becomes financially unsustainable.

Dove Orchids is about establishing autistic people as the experts and moving us out of the charity box.

Because we deserve to be paid for our contributions and insights and help!
We provide an important service that many people need! They need to know how to understand and accommodate autistic people. Everyone benefits by having that information & we deserve to get paid to provide that information!

I want this to become the norm in the autistic community
The only way for us to be able to be sustainable and do what we need to do is to get more clients.

We've heard from a ton of amazing autistic people and wish we could hire them all but we are only a small team, trying to become sustainable by getting clients so we can do more.
So if you like what we're doing, if you believe in what we're doing, please consider sharing Dove Orchids with esp. the non-autistic people you know in your life so we can keep this going.

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Apr 11
One of the inherent struggles with being autistic and people expecting you to mask all the time is that you get really good at both telling yourself and the people around you that you're doing okay, no matter what.

Learning that by age 7 or 8 is not healthy.
Even supportive parents who are trying really hard to help,

as an autistic kid you can just tell that your parent is exasperated and you know the way to "help" is to not "act out" and instead to pretend things are fine (which takes a lot of energy).
I wonder how many autistic kids feel like they are obligated to keep the adults around them happy or comfortable in their lives because they know when they are distressed that people around them get upset and sad and don't know how to support them.
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Apr 11
I wish people would stop saying "we need better diagnostic tests for women" when it comes to autism.

We need a better diagnostic test for Everyone when it comes to autistic people! Everyone!
We need better diagnostic tests for literally every demographic, including white cis men, because our diagnostic system was not built on who autistic people are -

it is built on what (white!!) neurotypical people see, reflect, and project onto autistic people.
Subtopic -

The complete ignoring of racial dynamics when it comes to autism diagnosis and the focus on white cis women is very real, esp. when it comes to the media and who is being amplified.

This issue is much bigger than solely white cis autistic women, it's a system.
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Apr 10
Something I don't see a lot when it comes to talking about parents of autistic kids -

Parenting in general is hard, no matter what.

Parenting a kid that the world doesn't understand, without proper support, is extra hard.

Those things are absolutely true -

1/5
And to be clear, I don't think I've seen any autistic adults who don't have kids say otherwise.

Those things are all true.

But also -
Being a kid that the world doesn't understand, whose parents' don't have proper support or understanding, is also absurdly difficult.

2/5
Being that kid and being a parent of another kid like that is also, absurdly difficult.

The populations that exist are not strictly "neurotypical parent of autistic kid" and then "autistic adult."

There are not only two categories here. There's a lot more nuance than that.

3/5
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Apr 9
Can someone reassure me that tonight when I go to sleep I won't have a terrifying nightmare like I did for the last 3 nights?

Also sleeping 12 hours and STILL waking up completely exhausted is really not enjoyable. At least if I woke up earlier I would have more time..
It's nearly 2am and my brain has finally decided to be like "Oh yes, it is time to be awake! Go about your day now!" -_-;

I think this started because I tried to go to bed earlier to be "responsible." Joke's on me I guess.
(I'm not looking for advice)
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Mar 7
The thing that really surprises me almost everytime is how the people around me didn't notice how stressed I was. I think I show how stressed I am but I guess it's overlooked?

The only person who can really tell when I am pre-shutdown is my spouse, says I get very still & quiet.
When I'm far away from meltdown I do try to show my stress or even say it out loud that something bothered me but I guess it's just ignored? It feels like I'm gaslighting myself to say otherwise.

The closer I get the more I shrink myself down to try to get through an interaction
The times when I'm the most stressed are usually when I'm trying to be as compliant as I can and just hold on until I can go somewhere else and decompress from the event.

I guess to allistic people this looks like I'm "just fine" the entire time. Really it's the warming sign.
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Mar 6
It's ironic to me that the stereotype of autism is that autistic people are robots,

when the "therapy" for being autistic (ABA) is to treat us as if we are robots- use rewards to shape behavior, don't allow advocacy, manipulate kids into wanting approval no matter the cost.

1/2
To any person who has experienced the negative consequences and trauma of ABA therapy, who has been impacted at the core of who they are,

I am truly sorry you experienced that. I wish no autistic person had experienced that.

But I know that's not reality.

I'm sorry. 💜

2/2
Non-autistic people - You may not hear autistic people's stories of ABA everyday. Many are shared privately for so many reasons - trauma, being gaslit publicly or people denying its impact.

Please trust us when we say that ABA has traumatized autistic lives. We hear the stories.
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