We fall in #love with people who promise that they will, in some way, help to make us whole. We do not all fall in love with the same people because we are not all missing the same things. [1/6]
The aspects that we find desirable in our partners speak of what we admire but do not have secure possession of in ourselves. We love in part in the hope of being helped and redeemed by our lovers. [2/6]
There is an underlying desire for education and growth. We hope to change a little in their presence, becoming, through their help, better versions of ourselves. Just below the surface, love contains a hope for reparation and education. [3/6]
We usually think of education as something harsh imposed upon us against our will, but love promises to educate us in a more gentle and seductive way. This is what parents, artists or a God might do. [4/6]
We can’t necessarily continue in this vein forever, & the rapture may not be entirely sane, but it is a hugely redemptive pastime – & a kind of art all of its own – to give ourselves over to properly appreciating the real complexity, beauty & virtue of another human being. [5/6]