Dr. Eva Witesman talking about loving your enemy. 💜💜💜✌🏽
Eva Witesman: Peacemaking is partly about wading into difficult waters and about listening.
E. Witesman: Some responses to feeling attacked include fight, flight, freeze, and submit. Recognize when you feel attacked. (Assault/abuse? Get pro help.) Attacks on ideas, beliefs or creations? Try these five steps... #mwegconf2019
E Witesman: Control your physiological response, assess the situation, be generous in spirit (don’t become their enemy), hold your personal ground (kindly define your boundaries), remain teachable (dialogue, truth requires multiple perspectives). #mwegconf2019
Responses in the room: 1-admit your frame of mind so they know emotional state and delay the conversation. 2-Eat/sleep first. 3-disengage til I can think again. 4-put energy into smthg pos first. E Witesman: breathe, exercise, kindly disengage, use butterfly hugs. #mwegconf2019
E. Witesman: Notice that their response might signify the importance of the issue to them. Why are they responding that way? Try to understand what’s happening. Room: Ask in a non-threatening way, don’t assume. #mwegconf2019
Room: Looking at my three attacking situations(worksheet) I recognize that it’s triggering my own insecurities. Their intent wasn’t to harm me, but my response is real anyway. (Good to know about self, good to know that could happen to others.) #mwegconf2019
E. Witesman: Have a go-to phrase or idea that helps you be generous. i.e. imagining what their parents love about them, imagine a generous story, pray for them, etc. Room: I prayed that the spirit could be at work in him *and* me. Golden rule. #mwegconf2019
E. Witesman: remain teachable. #mwegconf2019 #mwegspring2019
E. Witesman: Ephesians 6:11-18. Be prepared with the gospel of peace. #mwegconf2019
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