People in my mentions saying Dave Chappelle shouldn't be shaming victims and how damaging it is to sexual assault survivors--I was raped and I laughed.
We all process pain differently. Laughing in the face of it has saved me. You don't get to decide what I can or can't handle.
In fact, being "triggered" is what has helped me heal. Every time it came up--I had to face some part of it I wasn't looking at, or I had to develop a new coping mechanism, or process a feeling I had buried. Putting me in bubblewrap would have kept me stuck forever in victimhood.
When my buttons are pushed I have learned to get curious and take ownership of them. What is that? Why am I reacting this way? What's buried in me that I need to look at? These are the gifts of being offended. We get to take full responsibility for our emotional state.
A lot of bad things happened to me in my life that I had no control over. What I do have control over is how I respond to those events and much I allow those events to control my life and my attitude moving forward.
No one else gets to decide. That's on me.
Sorry to get all serious. I'll return to my regularly scheduled programming of being ridiculous now.
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