The thing about the Fergus Cleaver thing is that women can literally be standing there with a broken nose in this country and no one will care.
This is why when we speak up about the people who are abusers and “buT wHere’S yoUr evIdenCe?” gets pulled out it aids the abuser.
The legal system aids the abuser.
Defamation cases? Designed to intimidate and silence.
I think that most of us can think of examples where men pursue this route and are still held up as “what a man” by many people with big platforms.
Toxicity & violence always win - we let it.
The next time someone whispers something to you & you ponder the truth because you’ve never seen bruises, take a second to think that the whisper network is quite literally one of the only systems we have to keep ourselves & others safe.
Our stories are the truest thing we have.
It’s really great to see the outpouring of dismay and horror of this man joining the ranks of thousands of men who routinely obtain the full blessing of the law to continue their violence.
It’s harder to work up the same dismay for the ones you know - and we see the silence.
Culture change needs to come from us. It’s not going to come from a system that’s designed to favour abusers.
It’s not going to come from people who still haven’t acknowledged that climate change is an emergency, let alone housing, let alone domestic violence.
Keep speaking out./
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