So much of men's insults for women are blatant confessions of their own fears. They're terrified of dying alone, of one day learning their transactional relationships resulted in no one truly loving them, so they project this on women. 1/
They're horrified of aging, of becoming irrelevant, powerless, of not obtaining all they believe they're owed & were promised. A friend posted this comment on why he thinks suicide rates are highest among middle age white men. 2/
They fear loneliness and can't fathom creating their own fulfillment & communities, hence the lonely cat lady trope. They cannot conceive of life so peaceful not being defined by proximity to (and ownership of) other people. 3/
They think not being sexually desired is the worst experience bc they either never had to fight to be seen as a person, having value, deserving of respect, or they don't realize women have to fight even harder. So they claim we aren't sexually desirable bc that's their fear. 4/
They attack our fertility because virility is everything to them. It's how they prove their masculinity to other men. They can't imagine not defining themselves by their genders' approval, or that many women are relieved by infertility. 5/
They attack our sexuality and access to sex because they're bitter. They want us to be ashamed because they don't have the options we do, so they hope shame will limit us since they are. 6/
They denigrate our genitals because they're anxious about their own being too small, too odd, too undesirable, or incapable of providing pleasure. They want us as haunted with doubt as they are. 7/
They attack our interests because our joy, free from the constraints of our genders' approval, is unfair. They're insecure about liking what they like so we should be too. 8/
They shame our departure because their dependence on a caretaker and defining their worth in dominance of others leaves them afraid to be alone. Women choosing to be alone rather than settle for them is horrifying. They can't fathom being responsible for their own happiness. 9/
Nearly every insult from a man for a woman is not rooted in women's values but is a neon sign of their own worst fears. It's amusing how they fail to realize this as they blast their deepest insecurities to random women for us to laugh at. 10/
This is more evidence that privileged groups do not understand the inner workings, or humanity, of marginalized people. They have no concept of our actual fears & insecurities. They believe their tools of oppression are our actual soft spots. Amateurs. 11/
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