Thread by @magi_jay

It's not a mistake when a man harms multiple women. When men harm women without seeking some kind of intervention, they want to harm women.

Look, a lot of us can imagine human darkness, right? Your worst moment. Maybe you wanted to hurt another person. Imagine taking that person's arm so hard it bruised them. What would you feel? I think most of us would feel something. Like, "Shit. I just hurt a person."

If you're a man, imagine doing that to a smaller person. Someone you know you can hurt. Imagine the look on their face--especially if you trusted them--when you did it. Is that just a mistake you would wave away? Or is that a mistake that would haunt you?

I think a lot of people can make mistakes. Including bad ones. Like harming someone who is physically smaller than you. But when it's a mistake--like a PTSD mistake--there's a reckoning. There's something. in you that registers: "That was wrong."

Graham Platner talks about PTSD. But he doesn't register anything. He says his life was sloppy, but there's no human tone to it. No friction. No conflict. He is a man who is accused of harming multiple women. If you were a falsely accused man, how would you act?