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Victor Asemota @asemota
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African nations are full of hypocrites. It is why we still have so many social problems. Let’s look at what I consider literally the mother of all social problems - Reproductive Health.
People have sex. We keep pretending that they don’t but the reality is that people have sex. People also use the toilet every day as well but it is easier to buy toilet paper without stigma than to buy contraception or prophylactics.
When I was much younger, it was easier for you to tell your friend traveling abroad to buy you high quality condoms than for you to go into a pharmacy and boldly buy some. I also became a conduit for condoms when I started traveling more than my friends.
I have been thinking about this for a while. Why is it easier for us to admit to our friends that we do what is normal why being afraid of judgement from people who don’t even matter to us? I used to drive long distances to an area where nobody knew me to boldly buy condoms.
Buying condoms as a married man is even more precarious. You are expected to push the burden of contraception on your wife. It is unheard of for you to be buying condoms. I do buy condoms. I buy them from Target and Walmart because I get a better deal.
Buying condoms in African countries as a married man is an exercise where you have to carry your wife along in case you meet her relative or colleagues in the shop. My friend says this is what he always has to do and his wife even selects what she likes with stunned onlookers.
Contraceptives have become legal contraband because we refuse to admit the obvious that people do indeed have sex daily and want to enjoy it without having to worry. Our hypocrisy makes the whole sex thing tedious and we continue to face the consequences.
My cousin came to me with a reproductive health advice idea for younger people. I didn’t realize it was such a big problem until it occurred to me that I have never discussed the matter of sex with any of my relatives. We learn from the people we are not meant to learn from.
I mentored a Ugandan startup called “Ask Without Shame” and by 2016, they had over 50k young adults in their database. These are young people who were bold enough to admit that they needed to know more. A lot more do not admit because we have attached a stigma to natural function
Young people have sex. We are not going to pretend that they don’t. The sooner we start adapting as a society to solving reproductive health issues, the easier it would be to control social problems. Oh, married people also buy condoms too. Deal with it.
To end this, I’m sure that if religious institutions gave out as much condoms as abstinence counseling, most of our social problems would be history. We are still hanging on to prehistoric beliefs of sex as a taboo when it happens all around us daily. We are launching Satyro soon
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