I'm going to talk about what I call the Shirley Exception.
"No one's talking about legitimate cases."
"But surely there will be an exception."
They all thought that surely he'd be an exception.
"I didn't vote for leopards to eat *your* face! I just thought we needed some face-eating leopards generally. Surely you can't blame me for that!"
Many of them included language that expressly forbade giving similar benefits (like hospital visitation) to same-sex relationships.
And when they do, they always want credit for their good intentions towards those they see as deserving, not the outcomes.