Toxic femininity isn't a thing, and here's why:
Firstly, Toxic Masculinity was a term defined by Sheapard Bliss of the Mythopoetic Men's movement. It was about trying to redefine what Masculinity was, in a modern age that encouraged violent competition between men and disrespect of women.
It possits that masculinity has been currently defined in a way that has discouraged a healthy social interaction between men. Men are encouraged to challenge each other to define their masculinity instead of working together in a way that the Mythopoetic Men's movement believed
So in short, it was defined by men and for men, not to argue that masculinity is inherently negative but that our understanding of it can be different.
While, certain aspects of toxic masculinity relate to heterosexuality structures that require men to domineer over women, it's largely defined by how men relate to each other. Men seeing their masculinity as constantly at the risk of being challenged.
For example:
a man physically attacking someone because someone referred to them as a "pussy". It took a word for their masculinity to be challenged because compairing them to a woman is the highest of offenses.
Toxic Masculinity is largely about rejecting that accusation.
And largely this is a reflection of an patriarchal structure that places men at the top and women at the bottom. It is inherently misogynistic and requires a negative and objectifying view of women- they only matter in the ways they relate to men.
Women are owned by them. See: father's threatening to shoot their daughters prom date if she has sex with him.

Women are property to be defended.
That's the particular vision of masculinity that Sheapard Bliss was fighting against. Not the idea that masculinity is inerently bad, but that this current understanding, as a result of modernization, is.
So when you compare that to toxic femininity, as described here, there isn't a parellel.
Tears are weaponized because women are seen as lesser than men..

Obsessing with beauty is often rewarded in a society that sees beauty as a value- one often suggested to be for men.

Competing for male attwntion, speaks for itself. It's all femininity reinforced by men.
These things all share one thing in coming: Men. These things are all about men, and not about women definining their femininity for themselves. Which isn't the same as what we refer to as toxic masculinity. Women are rarely the reason men violently seek to reinforce themselves.
This is not to say that there aren't negative things about the conventions of femininity. But those things are more about internalized misogyny and wouldnt exist outside of patriarchal controls for women.
The sum of negative and damaging interactions between men in the name of reinforcing their masculinity is that they are seen as more masculine. Their violence is applauded.
We applaud men for being violent and defending their honor. Do we applaud women in the same way? Are women encouraged to use violence from a young age to defend their femininity or are they encouraged to apply more blushser to reinforce it??
All of the things listed here don't end in death. They're annoying but they aren't the same. Not by any means.
Women who exercise violence are often seen as less feminine. More masculine. We see violence as something owned by men. Something inherently masculine, and that's for a reason.
Women can be and sometimes are violent, but I can't think of a time where that violence has made a woman seem "more feminine".

Boys are handed guns and swords and told almost immediately that having them and using them makes them more masculine.
There isn't an accurate equivalent to "Toxic Masculinity" for women because toxic masculinity is almost precisely defined by how much men must never be compared to women.
Toxic Masculinity is entirely external and it isn't inherent. That's why it's so easily challenged and why it has nothing to really do with being a man. But what being a man has meant for us socially.
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