She had a great build and was wearing short cutoffs and a plaid button-up.
Kind of like a modern Daisy Duke.
Her legs were lean, long, and tan.
What my mind had pictured was a woman in her mid to late 20's.
That's the story the body told.
But her face looked like it was 50.
I was genuinely shocked - the inconsistency was striking.
What's so interesting about it is that the women who are in their mid 30's often end up having the faces of 50 year olds.
- Little fat in their face makes their cheeks and eyes look more gaunt
- They're always tan and a lot of them have skin that's showing signs of that
- There's a lot of lip injections, botox, and plastic surgery going on
Why are they making themselves look worse instead of better?
They're experiencing what many people in very insular tribes or sub cultures go through
An Aesthetic Feedback Loop
That's who they follow on social media.
That's who they consider to be their competition.
That's who they want to be.
And in that tribe, being show-ready looks very different than what most of us consider to be beautiful.
You see the same thing with the men in the body building world.
Because they're competing with other top tier men, their standards of size and proportion are incredibly removed from what the rest of the world sees as appealing.
You see menswear nerds constantly taking things to new and ridiculous levels - not to look better at work, but to compete with other menswear nerds on Reddit or Style Forum.
You see it with SJW's and their pursuit of ugliness as beauty.
But most of us don't lead lives where our entire identity is built off of one tribe.
We aren't just the music we listen to, our political leanings, or the types of workouts we prefer.
And if we lean too far into the aesthetics of one, it often can have negative effects on how we interact with all the other cultures we're a part of.
And, while it may mean success in that singular pursuit,
It can also mean setbacks in others.
It can be a tricky balance.
But if you get too insular with it, you get into a serious feedback loop and have the negatives there as well.