She was, essentially, asking for our papers (HOA membership card) to be in the neighborhood.
At some point, though, I realized there was something else going on.
This friend was being the very epitome of calm, polite, and neighborly. Every bad faith question answered with a friendly tone and a smile.
We didn't see her again, and the police never came.
The perfect moment won't come.
Dragging their racism to the forefront is an effective derail because they have no practice talking about it.