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Let's talk about privilege, shall we!?(A Thread)
I was raised on two opposite ends of the spectrum. On one hand, I had a white father and on the other hand, I had a Mexican mother. You see, the problem is, that my white father was a racist, alcoholic who abused my already mentally ill and disabled mother.
My father inherited money from his family members, in fact, I vividly remember he and his siblings fighting over items and money when my great-grandmother died and again when my grandfather died.
My mother on the other hand, was brain damaged when she was 12 years old, she was hit in the head with a 60 lb medicine ball. As a result of this, she had to relearn how to read, write, walk, talk and function as a normal human being. Her mom didn't speak english.
And they didn't have medical insurance growing up so they couldn't afford to take the kids to the hospital anyway. Every single one of her 8 siblings thought she was going to die.
When I was just 4 years old, my father beat and sexually assaulted my mother. When it was brought up in court, he laughed at her and said she couldn't prove it. I came home weeks later asking my mom why my dad called her a "spic".
My dad then filed for forclosure on the house they bought together behind my mothers back, the bank forclosed on the house despite the fact that my mother could afford the mortgage. This forced us out of a nice, affordable home and into shitty apartments.
Because my mom was mentally, emotionally and financially unstable because of my father's disgusting and vindictive actions, we had to move, a lot. My mom couldn't maintain healthy relationships with people because she didn't have the resources to get help.
My father on the other hand, proceeded to marry the woman he cheated on my mother with. They, together, abused me as the middle child because I reminded them of my mother, who they hated.
As a result of that I developed a serious eating disorder. I also have SVT and when I begged my parents to get surgery for it when I was 12 to fix it my father said no because it would "Use up the cap on his insurance". It was only a $10k surgery for a life with a healthy heart.
My mother switched us schools 14 times because of the fact that we couldn't stay in one place because the rent prices continued to be hiked. We would live with one boyfriend and then another, and then someone else. I didn't know stability.
Then I go to high school age, and that's when I realized how serious the Red Zoning was in the area. I remember on one street we lived by every other house went to the good HS and the other went to the bad one....
Then I realized that there was a pattern. On that street, almost everyone who lived on it owned more than one house. The houses that were OWNED went to the good school, the houses being rented out, went to the bad one.
I, of course, went to the bad school, which had white supremacists proudly flying confederate flags at school. It also had scandals like this gem and most went unreported: insurancenewsnet.com/oarticle/Tumwa…
The high school I wanted to attend was about a half of a mile from my house. The high school I had to go to that didn't give two craps about me was over 5 miles from my house.
The "poorer" owned homes in that area also went to the terrible school I went to. This school was home to a PE teacher who failed me 3 years in a row despite having a doctors note about my heart. He was BFF's with my racist middle school teacher who failed me for being Mexican.
This middle school teacher gave me an A in his class until the day he met my mother, the next day I was failing his class. I had to have my white father go talk to him and coincidentally, the next day I had a B.
Any time I was white passing in my childhood, I was treated far differently than when I wasn't. Some summers I would go visit my dad's mom in palm springs and I'd come back tan. People would treat me SO differently if I had tanned even just a little.
My point is, I have experienced having white passing privilege and I have experienced not having it. To deny it's existence, however, is absurd. White privilege is real and so is systemic racism.
And yes, even poor white people have been impacted by systemic racism because here's the thing, systemic racism doesn't care who it hurts, so long as it keeps the ruling class in a position of privilege.
Anyway, the moral of the story is that my white father lives in a half a million dollar home with his wife. Meanwhile my mother rents a room from my little brother because she can make ends meet at the job she's been working for 27 years. Oh but wait... there's more...
The woman my father left my mother for is the HR manager at his company so he's able to get consistent raises and favoritism as a result of this. My mother on the other hand, after working her job for 25+ years made less than I did my first year at my old company.
Oh wait lets laugh at one more part of the hilarious funding differences in our two schools! Arial views! I don't think I need to tell you which one of these schools was better funded but lets say one of them was nick named "Cow Pie High" for being next to a poop farm.
There are aspects of my life in which I benefit immensely from privilege. There are other aspects of my life in which I had very little. I can look at both of those situations and understand where I benefitted from it and where I did not but I can NOT deny its existence.
And here's the other thing... all of that instability led to an insane amount of abuse. I was sexually assaulted more than a dozen times... as a child. I was raped, as a child. We can't ignore that with poverty come trauma and abuse. I am strong because I have rebuilt myself.
My daughter will be raised in an environment that's stable. A space in which she is safe. A space in which she won't wonder where her next meal is coming from. A space in which she doesn't have to worry about her family sexually assaulting her.
She has privileges I didn't have as a kid and that's a GOOD thing, but she can also look at her life and acknowledge those privileges and count her blessings. Isn't it about time you do the same?
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