Earlier I went to see my cousin that took me in earlier this year.

She called before I went to key west and just left a message asking how I was doing. I know I talk frequently about cutting family off of necessary.

She’s not that kind of family member.
My cousin Ketha is an angel.

A hardass angel but an angel nonetheless.

She let me stay with her rent free while I figured things out. She didn’t even let her siblings stay at her place rent free.

But she did that for me.
I remember when I was younger, my dad let her come stay with us while she was finishing up nursing school. I was in high school.

She and my dad are really tight.

When she heard about my situation earlier this year, she didn’t hesitate to take me in.
It was a long 3 months because Ketha is very much a my way or the highway person, but she pushed me to be better.

She always asked me what my plans were.

She was always interested in what I was doing.

She encouraged me to take breaks when needed.
So many of my early periscope videos are from the edge of the bed in that guest room.

I used to pound out 150 tweets a day from that room.

I sat at her kitchen table for hours.

I ran webinars and interviews from her kitchen.

I didn’t know what I was doing.
I just knew I needed to do something.

She was there for me when it seemed like everything was falling apart.

She helped me put things back together.

She challenged me every change she got, even going so far to say that she didn’t think I’d be able to move out by May.
To be honest, I worked harder.

I didn’t go out for like 2 months straight. I went to work & I came home & kept working.

I worked until I could barely keep my eyes open. And then got up the next morning and did it again.

She’d make comments whenever she saw I skipped the gym
She’d ask me how my ebooks were selling.

She read my writings.

She helped me edit my resume.

She listened to my dreams.

She told me hers.

She chewed my ass when I was fucking up.

And at the end she told me she loved me and was proud of me.
Today she just wanted to chit chat just to see how I was doing.

I don’t have many people that do that in my life.

She was one of the few people that saw all of the ugly behind the scenes stuff.

And she’s one of my biggest cheerleaders even though I’m not there anymore.
She knows how many risks I’ve taken just to feel normal again.

And I think that it makes her happy that she was able to pay that generosity from 20 years ago forward to me.

She was the one that showed me that even when you have a difference in lifestyle, you can still connect
She’s super religious, still eats meat.

I’m the opposite 😂😂

We got to a point that we understood that we were saying the same things, but just using different words to describe it.

And that’s true of a lot of things we as humans “differ” on.
The thing that allows you to transcend your differences is a genuine desire to connect with that person.

When you don’t want to connect with people, the smallest things will keep you separate.

When you want to connect, the biggest things can’t keep you apart.
As I left today, she hugged me again and said “I love you. Keep doing good.”

“I love you too.”

“You still haven’t gone to church with me yet.”

“Yeah I know. I haven’t forgotten.”

When people ask me why I work so hard,

These moments are the reasons why.
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