The average person will own up to telling an average of 23 lies over any given two-week period. The real number is likely higher.
Because people lie. All of them. And they lie a lot.
Does that impact his "credibility" now?
It was a nightmare.
For some, lying about their status as a virgin was necessary as a survival tactic.
Literally. And I know what that word means.
Not like today's accusations against anyone who doesn't enthusiastically endorse the lifestyle strongly enough. The term has lost almost all meaning today, through gross misapplication far too often.
I was one of them.
AIDS was just starting to ramp up in public perception back then.
Frightened, ignorant people act more irrationally that normal, and they'll lash out in fear.
The truth just didn't matter to them.
They suspected that this was simply a cover story. How could they KNOW you weren't gay, if no one could testify to the fact that you really *did* like girls?
If they weren't sure, they'd err on the side of "caution".
So they'd lie.
Because they had a reasonable fear that they might really die in those attacks.
Because "preserving your credibility" doesn't trump your ability to survive that scene.
And you have no standing to judge those who did what they needed to do in order to survive it, through the prism and standard of what you believe now, today.
But you can demonstrate the simple human traits of compassion and empathy, even towards those who are from a "different tribe" than you belong to.
Our society has lost too much of that along the long, slow slide we've taken as a society, into the abyss of ever-escalating tribalism and demonization of The Other.
We've forgotten that people are individuals.
It's the war of All against All... but with mandatory team memberships.
Bigotry is the antithesis of treating each person as what they rightly are: an individual, who deserves to be treated and judged as such.
And we're doing it again.
It is a philosophy of power, via revenge for the past.
And you need to pay for it.
We need to remember what binds us together (our humanity), instead of concentrating on ways to divide us into different categories, and taking out your rage about the past on category members.
It doesn't make the world less evil. It just shuffles the labels around.
We must find a way to stop this.
Hating people by category is just lazy.
Be better than that.