I’m not trying to argue or discredit someone else’s objections, this is just my POV and my partner’s (both nonbinary, though Buster uses they/them.) I don’t think anyone’s wrong and I could be missing things.
(I'm autistic, I LOVE specificity lol.)
Both are true! There's a lot of sticky nuance here that's hard to put into words.
Anyway that's it please don't hate me!