There were generally older adults around and kids were pretty good about taking turns going down the slide at of staggered pace.
She deliberately jumped on the slide right after me.
I remember the force of her impact and then my body was filled with so much pain that I couldn’t breathe or move. It must’ve been minutes that passed.
I thought, that’s it. I’m going to die in this little sand lot.
And this is for all you with bullying in your past – you owe restitution to your victims. Not just an apology.
Is that enough, if there’s been physical violence and brutalization? Is that really enough? Where is the restitution?
So when you see authority figures telling kids to “toughen up “if they are bullied, some of those kids aren’t resilient.
if you were bullied, you have a right to claim your trauma. You have a right to be honest about it, always.
You have a right to want restorative justice. You have a right to want to beat the shit out of your tormentors.
You have a RIGHT to ask them to pay for your therapy bills.
We know bullying causes kids to suicide, causes teens to suicide, causes adults to suicide. We know this so well right now.
Did you do more than just apologize?
Did you ask your victim what they need?
Did you express remorse without bringing your own trauma into it as an excuse?
A brilliant woman on here recently coined the phrase “living apology. “
An apology that isn’t discrete and final, but a process of accountability. And improvement. And continuing accountability.
What about their victims?
I don’t care that these self-described reformed bullies are active in social justice circles, popular, active in trying to reform society, active in anti-racism work, whatever, etc.
It should NEVER just end there, do you hear me?
That girl was recently violently pushed off the bridge and who hit the water and broke multiple bones? The older girl that did that to her? I want to smash her face in.
I can’t. I just constitutionally can’t do that because I’ve been on the receiving end of that before. So shut the hell up.
Even after they are done being bullied and dead, do you understand how retraumatizing it is to have their loved ones come across that shit still online?
I don’t have the answers. But I do know that I have lots of questions and whatever we do now isn’t enough.
BUT STOP AUTOMATICALLY FORGIVING WOKE BULLIES.
VICTIMS DESERVE BETTER.