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Tinu Abayomi-Paul of Wakanda @Tinu
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When we were polite no one listened.

One curse word and we're finding each other & the attention of doctors.
You know what I partially take that back. The women doctors I have had all had one thing in common.

They listened. They saw me.
I had three great male doctors, all men of color. I've had four incredible doctors, all women.

Perhaps you are noticing a theme.
I've literally been seen by just under 100 doctors in my adult life. I have doctors in my family too.

I know from doctors man. I've never had a shitty female doctor. Haven't had many of them either. I'd guess ten.
I'm not talking OB/GYNs or therapists. Not that they are any less of doctors, just that I didn't think to count them.
The PCP that caught my active cancer after it had been missed for at least one and possibly three years?

A woman.
The first oncologist I had, that she referred me to, also a woman. My current oncologist, a woman.
I was going to share a story about how great my original oncologist was but it's just too personal. I have never told that story and I might take it to my grave.
Suffice it to say that the partner in the woman-run facility where my first oncologist practiced treated me with unbelievable kindness.

And stopped to greet me by name, every time. No matter how busy it was.
It was always busy. They were great doctors who had worked at famous cancer centers in the area before they joined forces.
Seems like something small, a doctor who isn't your doctor always having a smile for you & knowing how to correctly pronounce your African name.
When you are having chemo, when you are a new patient?

It is. Everything. Absolutely everything.
And it's so sad that the practice of medicine, the people who hold our lives in their hands, is so cold that my story is unusual.
They don't have to become our best friends. Or even emotionally invested in us I any way.

But we should at least be able to experience kindness. And to expect it.
So yeah. #DoctorsAreDickheads sometimes. And once you're treated well by a doctor, treated like a human adult and not a flare sign?

You don't want to go back.
*dollar sign.
I want to believe that we haven't gotten to the point where it's strange for us to expect politeness or feel as if we can get a little compassion and empathy.

Is that really a lot to ask #MedTwitter?
*can't not can
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