Dummy Dumb Dum.
Exclusively, by September 2005.
I moved from my apartment and into his home in June 2006 under the agreement that we'd jointly decide marriage by October.
We married in January 2007.
We DID NOT MIX MONEY until after the wedding.
Made perfect sense.
As his girlfriend, I wouldn't be entitled to any of his home equity if we had broken up.
Also, if we had broken up, my saved money could have gone towards purchasing my own home.
1) We lived an hour away from each other and that commute was awful for both of us; and
2) To get to know each other better as "housemates".
But it wasn't indefinite. We went into it on a mutually agreed timeline.
At that age, the time for bullshytting is over.
You're thinking about your longterm financial future, not playing house with someone who is simply wasting your time.
I wasn't "dating for fun" at that point.
No man was going to waste my time.
We would live together for 3 months June - September 2006
Took premarital counseling classes in October 2006
Planned our elopement and married that following January 2007.
He had no reason to sell his home.
It was a 4 bedroom that had doubled in value.
Again, we were 29 & 31 years old.
After marriage in January 2007, we renovated that home ourselves and had it on the market within 9 months.
Neither of us were looking to date for fun forever.
The relationship was not going to just drag on indefinitely.
If it didn't work out, MY next step was to buy my own home, which I was already itching to do.