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Kim Love @kimmaytube
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And by the way, "creating financial stability" with someone who isn't contractually obligated to you in any way is DUMB.

Dummy Dumb Dum.
Kevin and I started dating in August 2005.

Exclusively, by September 2005.

I moved from my apartment and into his home in June 2006 under the agreement that we'd jointly decide marriage by October.

We married in January 2007.

We DID NOT MIX MONEY until after the wedding.
I paid Kevin *not one dime* to live in his home because, as he said "I asked you to move in with me. You're my girlfriend, not my roommate".

I just basically pocketed my $700 of rent money every month.

Made perfect sense.

As his girlfriend, I wouldn't be entitled to any of his home equity if we had broken up.

Also, if we had broken up, my saved money could have gone towards purchasing my own home.
And we only moved in together before marrying for two reasons:

1) We lived an hour away from each other and that commute was awful for both of us; and

2) To get to know each other better as "housemates".

But it wasn't indefinite. We went into it on a mutually agreed timeline.
I was 29 years old and he was 31.

At that age, the time for bullshytting is over.

You're thinking about your longterm financial future, not playing house with someone who is simply wasting your time.

I wasn't "dating for fun" at that point.
No man was going to waste my time.
That was the agreement.

We would live together for 3 months June - September 2006

Took premarital counseling classes in October 2006

Planned our elopement and married that following January 2007.

There's no scenario in which I would've gotten a place with Kevin without marriage being the explicit and immediate goal. For what reason?

He had no reason to sell his home.
It was a 4 bedroom that had doubled in value.

Again, we were 29 & 31 years old.

The only thing that made sense was buying a home together after marriage, which is exactly what we did.

After marriage in January 2007, we renovated that home ourselves and had it on the market within 9 months.

Neither of us were looking to date for fun forever.

So when I agreed to move into his home, it was either going to work out or it wasn't.

The relationship was not going to just drag on indefinitely.

If it didn't work out, MY next step was to buy my own home, which I was already itching to do.

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