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Dr Amy Kavanagh @BlondeHistorian
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CW Disability Hate Crime / Threat of violence

At a pedestrian crossing.
Me: can I get to the box please?
Man: there’s a road.
Me: (sarcastically)Yes I know there’s a road.
The signal sounded so I started to cross.
Man: Next time I’ll push you in front of a fucking car.

1/?
On the other side of the road.
Me: Sorry what did you say?

I then had to listen to a 5 minute tirade from this man. He blocked my path & wasn't going to let me leave until he'd finished lecturing me. He lectured me about how ungrateful I was & how he was only trying to help. 2/?
He berated me because he was being kind, he wanted to make sure I was safe. When I explained that I knew there was a road, there is tactile paving, I was asking for access to the box so that I could cross safely, he just shouted at me for not being "polite". 3/?
I waited until he had finished screaming & shouting at me for not being polite & grateful. When he stopped I said. "Are you done?" He walked away, & so did I.

Because I wasn't instantly grateful for this man pointing out that there was a road he threatened to injure me. 4/?
When I challenged a man who threatened to throw me under a car, I was lectured on being an ungrateful disabled person.

Disabled people don't owe you gratitude. We don't have to accept your help. We don't need or want your observations & thoughtless interventions. 5/?
When I campaign about unwanted help & grabbing I'm constantly told that people are being kind when they help. They want to be nice, they are worried about "vulnerable" disabled people.

But this is what happens when we reject this "kindness". We get lectured & threatened. 6/?
#JustAskDontGrab isn't just about educating well meaning disabled people, it's about highlighting the lived experience of disabled people who are treated like incapable children. Disabled people are constantly assumed to be vulnerable, needy & unable to be independent. 7/?
During his lecture this man said "you probably want to be independent or whatever". As if it wasn't a choice I was able to make & instead something that should be decided for me based on his assessment of my abilities.

This paternalistic ableism is embedded in our society. 8/?
I am going to keep highlighting these experiences, to expose the harassment & violence that I have to live every day just because I am visibly disabled. If you are non-disabled take away this message, disabled people don't owe you gratitude because we exist in public. 9/?
That man wanted to punish me for not being a grateful vulnerable disabled person for him to rescue.

But I refuse to be silenced. I reported the bigot to the police.
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