So much love to the Jewish community this week in the midst of so much grief.
Here's the link to the moment with all the threads, in case you need to catch up.
Honestly? To some degree I think he was basically all those things.
For anyone who didn't grow up in this world, you should know that any male evangelical that *I* ever met was taught that basically the minute he looked at porn he was instantly addicted, that it was a terrible shame.
This leads to the criticisms. At this time, they were gathered into a report for him every month. He got about 2 negative letters per thousand.
The first is someone very upset with him for blaming the women's movement for devaluing the role of wife and mother, and pointing out the church has a somewhat not great history with women. Maybe "confess our own sins first."
I remember FotF mailings. He didn't change this either.
OBVIOUSLY he ignored this.
Dobson claims after reading this report he "feels as though he has been hit with a 2x4 about 400 times." I WISH that was true, but I don't believe it for a second.
You fucking nerd.
Anyway, basically his explanation is that he is MUCH BETTER but that the real problem was that before he always said things in writing. So he would get frustrated at someone working for him and write a scathing rebuke.
I need to point out this means he was writing this shit...
He assures us he has never been vicious or a tyrant to work for which... sure.
"I suppose your tendency to be touch, especially in writing, would apply to your relationship with business associates too."
Not... a question. More of a statement. But sure! Let's dive in.
"How come I can't find copies of Hide or Seek in the Christian bookstores?
As someone who has watched you for about 30 Dobson, let me assure you that you have not been improving. If your god is responsible for your character growth, I'm not impressed.
Also no part of me believes your temper has improved.
Want to take a second? Let's all breathe. I know I need it.
Look at this adorable little bear.
Ready? Let's go.
I want you to think about that because let me tell you, if you didn't grow up with this it's hard to overemphasize how much it fucks with you.
He finds it "incredible" that there are Christians claiming that HE is a proponent of this "humanistic psychobabble."
Oh, I don't call it the same things NOW. I don't believe in Satan. I don't believe I'm being "tricked" by anyone. I didn't really then (Satan: sort of undervalued in my upbringing). But I will say that I'm being overdramatic. That I'm just looking for attention.
That *I* am tricking someone, or manipulating someone. That I can't be trusted, even by myself.
So like before, I want you to say fuck off to anyone who ever told you this. Who knows, maybe it's just me. Maybe I'm the only one who internalized it that deep, maybe it's the enneagram 3 in me. But I doubt it.
You deserve to be heard.
He ends this answer by quoting the Psalms. Specifically "As a father pitieth his children, so the Lord pitieth them that fear Him."
I'm also not big on the "wounded, pathetic human beings."
This shit really does have consequences. If you grew up with this, you're not crazy, this is traumatic.
1) He literally almost never mentions the rape and incest thing. Only obliquely, only in very quick passing. We know he's CAPABLE of being graphic in descriptions, he was a few q's back. But not here.
"For Dobson, living in the limelight must feel at times more like living under a heat lamp."
These threads are kind of a lot of work, if you want to buy me lunch, I appreciate it.
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