- increased social motivation
- different special interests
- co-occurring behavioural difficulties
- Autism is just for boys
- Autism disappears at 18
- Autistic people lack empathy
- All autistics are the same
- Autistics fit into 2 boxes: high and low functioning.
- Be calm and understanding, as getting cross makes things worse
- Give then the option of choice and don’t force them
- but encourage flexibility too! Help them test their limits.
- every autistic is different
- talk to them about their difficulties and listen
- understand how they feel and don’t tell them they are overreacting
- be aware of their senses and don’t guilt trip them for struggling
- “That’s why I’m like this”
- One girl was bullied by teachers and students
- found people underestimated them
- helped them access spaces and they were believed
- “it will get better... you’ve made it this far.”
- It’s ok to not be ok and to feel it’s hard to talk about it.
- You are human, just like everyone else. Everyone is different and you are different too.
- Live life to the fullest even when you’re down.
- If you are really struggling, ask for help but you have the strength to work things out on your own.
- If someone’s friendship is conditional, it’s not real friendship.
- Seed it into a conversation and see how they react.
- Explain what autism is because a lot of people don’t understand, especially what it is for you specifically.
- Treat them the same.
Sarah thinks that late-dx people have a predisposition for self-doubt, which makes us more sensitive to it.
- communicating anxiety
- change of perception: use a catastrophe scale — is your response realistic to the situation and in perspective.
- tinted glasses
- brimmed hats
- soft clothing
- Stim toys