For the past few years, that teaching has shaped my attitude towards others and changed my life.
A heart filled with hate can rarely make progress.
The response was that they didn’t want to be demystified with that other person and so they never met.
When that person got close to me though and asked to meet, I obliged out of character: I enjoy being demystified away from whatever imaginations people have about me from twitter.
I like people to see me as I am in person.
And I smile.
Because you see: the ability to recognise greatness in its raw form is not one possessed by many but those who see it, two things immediately happen to them...
(For Christians, think of Noah’s son who saw his father naked and mocked - while the other two coveted that nakedness).
And by that honour comes promotion.
And this really is what I want.
Because those who inspired me the most were the men who at the peak of their greatness, delighted in telling me about how they had not even come close to me in achievement when they were my age.
And because of that, they respect me - even though they’re higher.
I could sense you both wanted to go out quickly to preserve some sort of mystique about me - and I sometimes do too.
And usually, most people preserve that respect and honour.
But sometimes, people return from there into a dark place.
“So this guy is even like this and everybody thinks he’s all that? I’m far better than him jo.”
And I concede: “Yes, You Are.”
In other words: what makes anyone great is not something you can ever observe conclusively - because even if you see them stark naked, you can’t see their heart.
Envy and Admiration are not strangers, they’re twins - closer to each other than you can understand.
Envy and Admiration are very identical.
Envy also says “I love this person. I want to be like them.”
The subtle difference is that demystification of seeing them ordinarily:
“I’m morally better than this person so I deserve to be them, more than them.”
And then the schemes start - the manipulation to possess what the other person has.
It starts with imitation - you’re trying to be like them - but results differ: so you start to nurse resentment.
But their next success finally drives you insane with Envy.
These things are natural to the African mind - the idea that you’re poor because someone else is rich.
But that Poju message freed me and Envy is something I’ve removed from my own life for a few years now by force.
The Greek goddess of Envy lived in dark places - Envy thrives in darkness.
Force yourself to celebrate people in their greatness, or Envy will set in.
Every time I start feeling someone is moving faster than me, I deliberately mention them in my prayers and thank God for their success without even asking for mine to come.
Because that it happened to someone close by, means it’s happening already: close to you.
Salt water and fresh water never flow from the same source.
You can’t demote others out of malice and hope for promotion for yourself: it may come, but tainted.
Because Possession is different from Ownership - that you’re in possession of a car doesn’t mean you own it.
Whatever is not yours from within - you can only possess it outwardly but until you own it: you struggle.
I misplaced my phone and my tab as soon as I arrived and some hours to my leaving, my entire bag with everything in it also got stolen.
Strangely, I was calm.
I’ve misplaced things and had them returned, months after - happened two different times in the past.
But when this happened, I wasn’t downcast, I felt a strange calm - my spirit had somehow prepared (or been prepared) for it.
Weren’t we just discussing Caesar here the other day? And Cassius with a comment from @KingDouyeAlfred...
Those who envied Caesar, killed him - but they never attained his greatness.
She told me later that her first emotion was Envy - but she forced herself to call me and offered to plan the event for free.
Even though we’d parted amicably, as an African, I was wary too.
By her own words, she forced herself to pray for me and my soon-to-be wife.
By the day of my wedding, she’d met a guy and had picked a day for introduction.
Married 2 months after.
What is yours can never escape you - unless by wishing evil towards others, you push it away from yourself.
Because the heart cannot be conflicted - you either have goodwill to all (including yourself) or to none.
Simple something - but very deep.
You can either go up in life by scheming and pulling others down (Envy) or by pushing people up (Admiration).
Makes so much sense on various levels - even business.
Wanted to end with that quote but let me add something:
That our humanity is also always before us in greatness.
Because I’m thinking “this people don’t know me 100%, don’t see my flaws.” - I feel unworthy.
I swear to God: sometimes I go back to read the thread to see what the fuss is.
Let no man boast therefore: because we have these treasures in earthen vessels.
Our eyes are always trained on the future.
Nobody drives a car forward in any direction by looking into the rearview mirror.
As long as there is more to be done, all we have done is ordinary.
And there’s a small whisper “You that you should be writing books, you’re doing thread and you’re happy.”
Always looking forward.
Be genuinely excited when they attain great heights or when they’re about to attain them.
I wish you well - yes, you reading this: I wish you Love, Light and Life.
Love Lives Here - and always will.