Part of the conventional wisdom of twitter is that it is very bad and evil to ever dare "subtweet" someone. Which roughly means... to make reference to some person/event/conflict without
I have never, for the life of me, been able to work out how this is supposed to be a terrible thing to do.
Now, mind you, I can totally see how people can get upset over a specific incident of someone doing this sort of thing.
In any case, Bob totally is a monster, but it's completely absurd to suggest he is based on him "subtweeting" here. That would be just as horrible of a thing to say if the timing were totally coincidental, and Bob were unaware of Adam's recent woes.
Now, I HAVE seen the
And, wow, let's unpack
Meanwhile there is a huge list of legitimate reasons to not be totally specific with names and dates and events while discussing someone/something. Off hand:
- I don't want to directly refer to this person because I know if I do, people who read this
- I know that the audience I am addressing is unfamiliar with this person, and it's just more efficient to say something like "this guy I work with."
- I don't want freaking stalkers trying to pin down my identity by playing amateur detective with a list of people I'm familiar with.
- The person in question has a handle that's like 20 emojis or a smiley face or Jo279268392 and I can't be bothered to transcribe it.
- This person has like 20 handles and is using a different one every time I
And similar logic applies for not naming specific dates, events, etc. Plenty of everyday, commonplace, not at all sinister reasons to communicate vaguely that it's a nonsensical thing to criminalize.
Here's the other thing though. The sort of person
If you're constantly looking out for signs that people you know are secretly talking about you,
Rather famously at this point, I have had a huge number of
THAT whole tangent, come to think of it, segues nicely into the next deeply unhealthy behavior on my list, whisper networks-
Block LISTS of course, are a huge problem, which I've more than amply covered here- secretgamergirl.tumblr.com/post/172476575…
Even just regular manual, I don't want to deal with this person here, so I'm gonna
I mean, really think about this one. If you say something to me that I don't like (or to a friend where I can see it, or when I just
Like, if the internet weren't a thing? That is not something I could even do.
But... this is twitter, so we have blocks, and we all have to use them constantly, because there's no real moderation, so despite being a terrible and disproportionate response in
Meanwhile in a past life, back in the web 1.0 days, I personally used to be one of those people who never blocked anyone over any service,
That logic doesn't necessarily translate to twitter because, again, there's no real
Of course, technically, blocks aren't the ONLY tool twitter users have
I'm going to come right out and say it here,
First, in keeping with my general formatting here it's not a viable fix for the problem it theoretically serves
What it turns out it's really great for though is psychological warfare.
I've had several friends over the years who quietly decided at some point or another that they no longer liked me and rather than confront me with whatever issue they had like emotionally
So here's how that played out from my angle. For whatever unknown period, I just didn't
So naturally, being the sort of gal who legitimately can't stand the thought
In a lot of these instances, Dan has
Personally, I've dangled on that sort of hook for over a year at a time, on more than one occasion, and that is far more than enough time for that sort of doubt and uncertainy to really just eat away at a person's mind in dangerous ways.