That people will love me anyway.
It's a lifelong habit I fell into trying to be like my mother.
A decade or so ago she warned me about putting others before myself. It didn't come back around to her like it should have.
"You don't have to do that."
"You should not be doing that."
"What do you want me to cook you?"
"Don't you want to go sit down.?"
I don't have to push myself.
This extra bit might make things worse.
I deserve extra help, just like the people I help.
Then there's not actively loving yourself as much as you do other people.