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Tonight I'm thinking of how #MySpoons have an emotional connection to my physical pain - and lessening too.
My youngest sister, the one I live with, taught me this incredible lesson. Namely that it's okay if I just can't whatever right now and she'll love me anyway.

That people will love me anyway.
I've noticed lately that when I embrace that? My stress lessens, which lessens my pain, to the extent that stress makes it worse.
And stress can make me So much worse than I thought.
It's not that I ever had the conscious thought "Put other people's needs before mine."

It's a lifelong habit I fell into trying to be like my mother.
My mother is a wonderfully generous person.

A decade or so ago she warned me about putting others before myself. It didn't come back around to her like it should have.
Actually learning it came from my sister constantly reminding me

"You don't have to do that."
"You should not be doing that."
"What do you want me to cook you?"
"Don't you want to go sit down.?"
And over time it clicked.

I don't have to push myself.

This extra bit might make things worse.

I deserve extra help, just like the people I help.
And I have been this way as long as I can remember. There's wanting to serve and give and love.

Then there's not actively loving yourself as much as you do other people.
Anyway. I'm grateful for that lesson and this year if healing. I've been most out if work for a year now. Not there yet but I'm much stronger.
If you don't get the spoon reference, read this analogy about what it's like to have an energy limitation due to chronic illness.

goo.gl/QDeiFa
The Spoon Theory written by Christine Miserandino

It's by @bydls - she started the Spoonie movement - follow her for more.
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