Misgendering: The act of calling someone by the gender that they don't identify with. For instance, calling a male by "she/her/hers", when their pronoun is clearly "he/him/his". Btw, Twitter's ban is for "INTENTIONAL" misgendering it seems. Not accidental.
*Not his real name.
Anyway, we stayed in touch, texting every week or so and such, but we were never "close" despite the fact that I tried to be closer to them because of their circumstance.
"I tired to kill myself."
"Oh god, I'm sorry. What happened?"
"Someone misgendered me at work."
I asked him when it happened. Three days ago. Someone at work just casually misgendered him. He was heartbroken. Went home. Took lots of pills. Then before passing out, thankfully called 911 because he wanted to keep fighting. For himself.
You mean today?
"You're the first person who showed up."
"No, the past three days," he tried to make it sound very casual. Yeah, he'd just tried to kill himself. Been a the hospital for three days. And the only person he had to come see him was a guy he'd only hung out with a few times and didn't know the last name of.
What made him try to kill himself in the new place just as he was trying to build a new home? Misgendering and deadnaming.
*again not real name