Around this time of year, people often complain about how unrealistic #Hallmark movies are with their lack of diversity. But, the fact is, they *are* realistic in a sense. Studies show that most Whites in this country interact only or mainly with other Whites on a daily basis.
Hallmark movies are actually being realistic about our society. They're portraying a White world with White structures, systems, institutions, and preferences, where people of color are tokenized or made to be background or at best support characters.
Most Whites live in a nearly hermetically sealed bubble from the cares, concerns, as well as triumphs and celebrations of communities of color. Family, friends, acquaintances, co-workers, churches, neighborhoods, and other interpersonal relationships are overwhelmingly White.
The stories of people of color are only important insofar as they perpetuate whiteness as rightness and normalcy. Every once in a blue moon, they'll get a chance to tell their own stories on their own terms rather than in the backdrop of White norms and expectations.
If you're going to partake, then watch Hallmark movies as an educational endeavor. After parsing the (expectedly cheesy) romance, at the end of the day, you'll get a good glimpse of the America we live in today.
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Scot McKnight and Laura Barringer in A Church Called Tov write: "False narratives are not just 'spin' or even 'brand protection,' though they may be that, too. They are darkness. They are the opposite of light."
Here's an example.
After our former pastor resigned
and caused the destruction of our church because of his grievously sinful actions, he got a new position as senior pastor in New York. He was interviewed by the Long Island Herald and explained the closure of our church as such:
"It was young and small and Covid wrecked us...
There was so much trouble for a small church to handle, and we couldn't afford to continue."
A pastor who is held captive to image and whose identity has become enmeshed with their ministry is unable to be honest, vulnerable, and transparent about how their church is actually doing. They will hide financial struggles or take unethical routes to pay the church's bills.
They will avoid difficult conversations that affect the health of the church and will shirk their discipleship responsibilities for outward appearances of churchliness. They will hyperfocus on details that make the church look good (eg the best coffee, the best potlucks) and
neglect the weightier matters of church life and wellness. They will go out of their way to make themselves feel needed by others and even see themselves as the cornerstone holding up the church and keeping it from falling apart. They will flatter those who are gifted in order
This is the game that they love to play - they claim to have some secret set of information that only they know that completely acquits the abuser no matter how guilty they appear to be, but they won't release that secret set of information.
Columbus Metro Presbytery would not release the minutes of our church's session minutes during the time that they had a committee sit in to (purportedly) bring extra accountability after our pastor got caught in his sin. They also refused to release their report and
recommendations. The only way that one of the members of our church was able to even see these was because he kept following up with them for MONTHS until he was granted a time to see them in person while being monitored by a representative of presbytery. In fact, it *should have
I was stopped in my tracks when I read this quote.
“'The unborn' are a convenient group of people to advocate for. They never make demands of you; they are morally uncomplicated, unlike the incarcerated, addicted, or the chronically poor; they don’t resent your condescension or
complain that you are not politically correct; unlike widows, they don’t ask you to question patriarchy; unlike orphans, they don’t need money, education, or childcare; unlike aliens, they don’t bring all that racial, cultural, and religious baggage that you dislike; they allow
you to feel good about yourself without any work at creating or maintaining relationships; and when they are born, you can forget about them, because they cease to be unborn. You can love the unborn and advocate for them without substantially challenging your own wealth, power,
I've noticed that there are generally three progressive levels of complementarianism. The first is ministerial complementarianism, where women are only barred from ordained offices. The second is familial complementarianism, where, in addition to the constraints of ministerial
complementarianism, women are barred from certain types of roles within their household. The third is societal complementarianism, where, in addition to the constraints of the first two types, women are barred from certain types of roles within society at large.
Even though I disagree with it, very, very rarely have I even seen a church hold strictly to just ministerial complementarianism. It's often a very quick slide from ministerial complementarianism to familial complementarianism and then again to societal complementarianism.
In Christian circles, the expression of anger is often connected to power. There are those who are afforded the right to express their anger freely and to have righteousness be attributed to it. There are others who are never allowed to express anger.
Those who can freely
express their anger also receive a wide range of grace, so that an instance of unrighteous anger is tucked away under righteous intent or ends. Those who are never allowed to express their anger are given no grace, so that anytime they step out of line, they lose all rapport.
Those who can express anger are rewarded for being "passionate" and "living out convictions." Others are rewarded for repressing their anger, being told that it's glorifying to God to be a doormat.
Expressions of anger, as they are connected to power, are necessarily connected