I'll start with a content warning for sexual abuse, (I'll avoid being graphic )
While I don't know if any of this was still going on while I was there, their silence doesn't surprise me
Some of this is explicit, some of it is what educationalist Ivan Illich called "the hidden curriculum"
The school had a well known bullying problem then. And when a boy reported bullying, all involved would get an "early bird" detention...
Scared little boy hiding amongst shadows,
ashamed of tears exposing ancient pain
and then later
if you're going to weep keep it from sunshine,
so no one sees
and then the refrain
I won't cry,
above all things boy, be a man
I'd actually been taught not to cry much earlier, I was told off for it in primary school, when I was seven.
oh it was a different time? 2001.
sex is dirty and sinful, being a victim is shameful, and being open about being a victim will likely land you in trouble. Don't cry- don't let others know you're hurting.
this is what toxic masculinity is. Victims are all genders, but the abusers are almost always men.
And my school was another claim to fame that someone would say isn't something to be proud of either...
The ones I remember seem to have been mostly active in preventing any reform on women's reproductive rights. That's a whole other discussion, but not unrelated.
In less than 6 months I dropped out. Going back into a school environment awakened something dormant in me
Now my time at high school isn't the only contributing factor (I've been in therapy then counselling ever since getting the diagnosis) but it's a big part of it
But I'll be a lot happier when we burn toxic masculinity to the ground.