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1/ "Many years ago, after an especially rigorous season of ministry ..."

~Bill Hybels, opening of chapter 1, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
2/ "I remember thinking about what a terrible trip it would have been had we neglected to locate the root issue that was holding us back"

@wcagls @GLSAus @trdevries ~your founder Bill Hybels, chapter 1, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
3/ "I don't know what barnacles encrust your prop today."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
4/ "But this much I do know: when you & I are willing to wield a butter knife ..."

~Bill Hybels, accidentally referencing fellow Chicago pastor James MadDonald's butter knife escapades world.wng.org/2018/12/hard_t…

from "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
@ex_harvest @NateSparks130
5/ "I cover each of these--tough love, tenderhearted love, sacrificial love, radical love--in detail in the second half of this book"

~Bill Hybels, from "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
6/ "Before you dive in, can I offer a word of caution?"

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
7/ "The secrets I've picked up along the way are presented in each chapter"

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
8/ Holy Motherfucking FSM, this is some disturbing shit. That's just chapter 1. Maybe I should just stop there.
9/ "I've always been intrigued with courage."

~Bill Hybels, opening of chapter 2, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
10/ "Whenever I hear of someone showing courage instead of cowardice, I find myself saying, "That's what I want to be like."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
11/ "The older I get, the more I understand how much courage it takes to face not just the adrenaline-raising exceptions but also the stuff of normal, everyday life."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
12/ "Every single day we make choices that show whether we are courageous or cowardly."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
13/ "According to Scripture, in order to become a Christian you have to own up to your sin"

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
14/ "You have to tell ... the truth about yourself--that you've lied, you've hurt people, you've cheated; that you've been greedy, dishonest, unfaithful to your spouse, self-centered."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
15/ "Inside, a voice is saying, 'Confession would be painful and humiliating, and it would make you feel uncomfortable and exposed, but it's the right thing to do and you have to do it.'"

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
16/ "You, my friend, are gutless. You know what you should do, but you're too chicken to do it. You don't have the intestinal fortitude to tell ... the truth about who you really are."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
17/ "It takes courage to fight off the 'greener-grass' temptations, to work through layer after layer of masks, cover-ups, and defense mechanisms, to keep working on that marriage year after year after year."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
18/ "How much courage is required to stay sexually pure in a sex-crazed culture? ... It takes a *lot* of courage, in my view."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
19/ "If you're lacking the kind of courage I'm talking about, don't lose heart. Through God's power you can help your courage grow strong. ... it only requires that you face your fears, rally a few role models around you ..."

I recommend the Mennonites ambs.edu/about/ambs-res…
20/ "I knew exactly what he was doing: waiting until I was terrified out of my mind, and then putting me in control."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
21/ "Bad company corrupts good character. If you spend time with spineless people, you'll probably become spineless yourself."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
22/ "What then, is this thing we don't understand but want more of? I can give you a two-word explanation ... Discipline is only possible when we are willing to 𝑑𝑒𝑙𝑎𝑦 𝑔𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑓𝑖𝑐𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking", Chapter 3
23/ "Delaying gratification is a process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure by meeting and experiencing the pain first and getting it over with. It's the only decent way to live."

~Bill Hybels, quoting Scott Peck
24/ "Lynne & I used to meet with couples trying to sort out marital issues. ... we realized that even if they'd been married twice as long as we had, they'd never gotten around to dealing with the basics of being husband & wife."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking
25/ "As problems arose or conflicts surfaced between them, they'd refuse to face them. It was too uncomfortable, & so they pretended nothing was wrong. The result was escalating discomfort that eventually became intolerable."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
26/ "The 'graduate-level' discipline I'm referring to is called 'advance decision making,' which means determining in your heart how you will act well before that action is taken."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
27/ "Decide in advance what will set you up for relational success, and then stick to it no matter what."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
28/ "My running partner and I ... satisfaction that lingers well into the night."

Gross. Shivers of horror.

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking", page 35
29/ "Don't allow the other demands of your day to overshadow your intimate time with God." ... "I have discovered 3 things that I must do if my spiritual life is going to flourish: input, reflection, and abstinence."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
30/ "For the past 15 years I have begun nearly every day by grabbing my journal and writing a paragraph that starts 'God, here is the condition of my soul today ...'"

I wonder if you lied to your journal, Bill. Maybe we'll learn in discovery. My advice would be burn them.
31/ "Third, I need abstinence. In building a strong relationship with God, there are some things I have to avoid. ... lust ..."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"

"She remembered feeling his hands shake."

~@lauriegnyt, writing about brave hero Pat Baranowki.
32/ "Somehow your high resolve melts in the heat of temptation."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"

Noticed: wow a lot of second person writing here.
33/ "The payoff for spiritual discipline is a stable Christian life--maturity, usefulness, satisfaction, contentedness."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"

Wow.
34/ "It takes a lot of old-fashioned sweat to be a visionary."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking", chapter 4

"When they got home, Mr. Hybels offered her a back rub in front of the fireplace and told her to lie face down."

~Laurie Goodstein, re: a sexual assault
35/ "He 𝑖𝑠 his problem"

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"

Noticed: some third person writing as well.
36/ "More often than not, visionaries find a way, with God's help, to deal with their problems and overcome them rather than surrender their lives to them."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
37/ "I admit I'm not in your shoes."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"

instagram.com/p/BryADMygYZ1/
38/ "Vision is the ability to see beneath the surface of people's lives"
~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"

"Suddenly a car screeched to a stop beside her, & the driver rolled down his window. It was the church’s pastor."
~Laurie Goodstein nytimes.com/2018/08/05/us/…
39/ "Most of us are amazingly gifted at seeing the obvious in one another"

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"

Number of new @WillowCreekCC elders touted as having spiritual gift of "discernment": 5 of 11

Average length of membership among those five: 15.2 years
40/ "Visionary people ... look beneath the surface ... they look at the hopes and fears that motivate the person's behaviour."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"

"She feared she would be forced to stand in front of the congregation & confess"

~Laurie Goodstein
41/ "We need visionary witnesses who can look at unbelievers and say 'I wonder what Christ's transforming power could do in that person's life?'"

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"

Bill--fuck off, mate.
42/ "Relationships can be messy, I know."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
43/ "It also takes courage, for the Holy Spirit may lead you to affirm something in that person that no one else sees."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"

"P.S. Plus, you are a knockout!”

~Bill Hybels, handwritten note to one of the women he sexually assaulted
44/ "The last aspect of vision--looking into your own life--is something I didn't grasp until nearly a decade into my ministry."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"

Tweeter's note: That would be ~mid-1980s
45/ "I often wonder if I matter at all."
...
"... the Holy Spirit seemed to whisper to me, ... 'Why don't you believe what you preach?'"

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
46/ "And God was grieved."
...
"I can't ask you to do something that I'm not willing to do."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
47/ "Most times I am in countries like Brazil, Ireland, or Canada, speaking ... to small gatherings of dispirited leaders who are packed into too-small rundown hotel rooms,"

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"

More shivers of horror.
48/ "I love your church, God! I love it in any size, shape, language or ethnicity I can find."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"

More shivers of horror.
49/ "I love to be the center of the action in your church. As I write these words, tears are streaming down my cheeks. It's either the pearls of great price, or the stomach flu. You and I both know which one it is."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
50/ "Right now your Bride in Malaga is hurting, but I know she's your heartthrob still. I'm so honored to be serving her here now."

"That night, as I closed my journal, I sensed the smile of heaven."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking"
51/ "If you don't feel a chill run up your spine as you sense God's pleasure in your life and ministry, then 𝑛𝑜𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 can give you a jolt."

~Bill Hybels, "Who You Are When No One's Looking", end of chapter 4.
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54/ That was 4 of 11 chapters. My lovely Megsie suggested we burn the book rather than tweet the rest of it, and this seemed an excellent idea. So we filmed ourselves burning the book, here facebook.com/oxymoron/video… =)
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