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Tinu thousand 19. @Tinu
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❌ predator protection,
❌ rape apologists
❌ black trauma as entertainment

vs watching #SurvivingRKelly for

✅ the community love and/or
✅ bearing witness and/or
✅ learning about predator behavior from the mental health experts in the series.
You don't have to consume trauma.

Black or any.

And I think it's smart to warn against consuming gratuitoo black trauma for glorification's sake.

But that's not what this show is *about* just because it CONTAINS it.
It's an opportunity, first and foremost, for the survivors to be heard and for us to bear witness.

These two things are of Paramount importance. For the Black community, all our Black cultures and the world at Large.
We have a problem with normalizing predation, predators, protecting them with silence and compliance, for money or fame.

Even out of sheer fear and ignorance.

It's as systemic as sexism or patriarchy or fascism.
If you know a better way to fight evil dragging it out into the light, come on with it.

It's like cancer. When I didn't know I had it? I was fighting it all wrong. I thought it was something else.
I don't know how to fight problems without looking at them and knowing what they are .

If you know a better way? Teach me sensai.

As a survivor this process is not fun. It hurts. But it also heals.
It might sound obvious but people not knowing the extent of what this man did is directly of why so many people don't believe his victims.
They erect these huge myths and world of excuses for not listening to victims. It's how and where raoe apologists are born.

And this show isn't just exposing that. It's educating us about how it works.
Thank you @dreamhampton because what show has ever done this for the Black community.

I've been going through some of this my whole life and have had amazing revelations because if sits connected on this show.
Thinking "it was just that one thing with Aaliyah" even thinking what happened with her almost wasn't a crime?

The arguments that his predatory behavior is normally allows people to shove his crimes into the margins.
"So what, he was a little bit older."

In my (almost as young) brain where I had a 28 year old boy friend at 17?

I didn't get the big deal, thinking she was older than I thought and that he was younger.
But Aaliyah was born in 1979. RK was born in 1967. In my brain they were maybe 17 and 23 or 16 and 19. And the music industry had "matured" her.

Ridiculous said out loud! But. I never said it out loud until this show.
You face that, watching this. Then you're facing the tape you never saw and forgot about. (Always been Weird about "sex tapes.")

And. It wasn't his only time. And it was systemic. And it was repeated. And premeditated.
It scares the shit out of me too, doing the math behind marriages in my family.

Counting the age difference between some of my favorite famous married couples.

But I also don't the have multiple consistent narratives of those men attacking multiple women.
If you're watching the hashtag but not the show you may see the pain but not seeing the healing.

Then there's the needed discussion, and the ideas for building a world that removes the support structure for predators.
Maybe *watching* #SurvivingRKelly ain't for you. Cool.

But come participate in the group healing, resource building, support structures & community building.
Or at least let us finish doing our thing in peace.
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