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This thread exemplifies the kind of people who have made a decision to embrace misery, as long as the world perceives them as having had a lengthy marriage.
The well being of their children & what they will learn from growing up in an unhappy home pales in comparison to that.
I have been around enough of these types to know that it has little to do with the children, and more to do with how the world sees them and their relationship.
They are more enamoured by the idea of putting up a front for others, and achieving the perfect family photo, than the
Everyday dysfunction of their lives, that the children have front row seats to.

And please be clear that the day to day effort of holding their relationship together, doesn't exclude infidelity/abuse.
People, like the original poster, who demonize the idea of divorce, and
Smear single parent homes as the worse place for their children to be raised in, often do so deliberately to get away with toxicity and still have the ability to criticize your response of seeking a divorce.
They would prefer you trapped and believing that even if they hurt you,
Your hurt doesn't compare to "damaging" your kids.
They imply that your decision to remove yourself from a damaging relationship, where you feel disrespected and abused mentally, physically or emotionally, is a selfish one, that doesn't consider the children.
That is a lie.
The truth is, they just don't want their sins aired to the public, and the knowledge of their behavior in a committed relationship is protected by you choice to remain with them.
They care about how the world percieves them via their relationship.
Because if they truly cared,
About the children, they would know the importance of not raising children to learn what love is not, and not teaching them to remain in places where love is lost.
There is so much you learn about a relationship when it ends.
The truth comes out about what appeared to be
An idyllic situation, the toxicity, the unhappiness, the abuse etc and so it is very important for it's perpetrators to insist on "No divorce for the sake of the kids", to avoid the truth coming out.

And because of how our society idealizes marriage, we tend to over
Celebrate couples simply for being together.

And individuals in a couple, benefit from being seen as respectable "good" people, for remaining together, despite whatever may really be happening.
It is the perfect cover for a toxic person to thrive unquestioned.
Divorce is scary for a lot of people, especially those raised religious, who have been taught that this one decision they made, should affect their entire life forever.
How illogical is their religion, to insist that when it comes to this, they can make no mistakes?
In every
Other aspect of our lives, our jobs, education, food, health, clothing, beliefs, we change our minds and change directions as we get older and realize the toxicity in what we previously embraced as what worked for us, but because we signed a piece of paper and a person
That doesn't know you said a prayer he/she repeats every weekend, you can't outgrow or walk away from what is obviously detrimental to your well being?
It's not divine obligation, it's human.
And when probed will reveal that it is based more on outside perception, which includes
Identifying via your relationship, wanting to keep the idealization alive, judging yourself as a failure for it's outside decline, wanting to be celebrated for being a couple, wanting to live up to the idyllic image you have been portraying.
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