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You know why they're getting mad at me for stating what we women have to do?

Because we know how toothless our demands are that men change without incentives & disincentives.

Expecting them to change because it's the "right thing to do". 🙄

Newsflash.

That rarely works.
That's why street harassers won't change. It's partly due to a total social & economic breakdown with NO incentives.

No consequences.

They get nothing out of being better people. Their families aren't rejecting them. Many still get Thanksgiving plates.

Shame doesn't work.
In your delusional mind, "doing the right thing" is always rewarding enough.

You really think shame is the ultimate persuader. 🙄

In the real world? People behave according to incentives. Economic opportunities. Social ostracism.

For people with nothing to lose?

Anarchy.
How those men can be changed, reprogrammed, etc. is a task bigger than I can handle.

I'm convinced that you need government involved to socially engineer them since it has created the disease we see in the form of symptoms (harassment)

So in the meantime, I use avoidance...
It's not perfect or foolproof, but I have removed and continue to remove myself from those spaces where I'm most likely to experience it. *From experience*.

Even in my own community.
I know the "hot spots" of foolery.

I know which gas stations to avoid.

No patience.
Some of y'all are definitely not going to like this☕

But 15 years ago, I said to myself that I was not going to endure the fckry from the men I did not create.

Yes. Women are dealing with the men they are simultaneously reproducing.

Where's the lie?
I see it in my own family.
Please tell me that it's a coincidence that my cousin married a statutory rapist *after the fact* and decades later, at least two of their sons are felons.

One for sexually assaulting a drunk white girl. And video taping it, threatening to expose
Cause you know, it's the 2010s.
Keep telling me the patterns I've witnessed for 4 decades (from afar, cause I dont associate with them 💅) are coincidences.

That we can't see who's all involved.

Yeah, okay.
The men who are working to change their behaviors?

They're doing it out of FEAR.

Fear they could lose their jobs.

Fear they could be sued.

Fear that no women will date or marry them with a "Scarlet M" for misogyny on their chests.

Incentives, not shame.

Incentives.
And the problem is, if you don't have incentives to offer or take away, they aren't doing anything out of pure moral obligation.

You've got them messed up.

That's a minority, Boo Boo.

That's not how men, on average, operate.

Pick up a history book.

I'm going by history.
All of these civilized social structures we create are for *their* a$$es.

To keep them in line and not terrorizing our society.
My faith in men to do the "right thing" (without social structure & incentives) is non-existent.
But don't take my word for it.

They'll tell you themselves. ☕
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