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Damn do I have some things to say about what passes for #SpecialEd in the communities called out with #ExposeChristianHomeschooling. See, I just figured out I'm #ActuallyAutistic. My twin siblings were diagnosed at age 2.

...no one told them until they were 20 years old.
It was the late 90's. Neighbors were distrustful of us homeschoolers, and church ppl could sense something was off. So the last thing my parents were going to broadcast was that the twins were deeply disabled, and they were refusing to accept help offered by the public schools.
My #autistic siblings got a couple forms of therapy until age 4, and then we "did therapy at home". What we really did was escape the scrutiny of medical mandatory reporters who were already telling us the twins needed in-home therapy options from, again, the public schools.
But mandatory reporters inside our home would have meant them seeing me not getting educated, possibly realizing I too am on the spectrum and dyslexic, the twins not getting sufficient care, and being "spanked" for aspects of their #autism. So consistent care ended at age 4.
Meanwhile, as in many #homeschool families, I as the oldest #afab child was quickly installed as a parent and caretaker. I did not have a sibling bond with either of the twins, but a caretaker bond, and I had an especially strong parental bond with my brother.
So even though I was #ActuallyAutistic and my parents had identified me as #dyslexic as well, I was expected to achieve a #neurotypical adult's level of functioning... and I was doing a damned good job of it by age 8.

Over the years, the twins' symptomologies fluctuated widely, as did mine. None of us got actual medical care for any of our neurodivergences except for the two years of occupational and speech therapy the twins got at the beginning, and a couple months of occupational in '04.
And through all of this, the twins' #autism was a closely held secret, even from them.


They didn't know.

They didn't know while I made excuses for why my 12yo bro couldn't read. Why my sis couldn't feel her gushing-blood injury. Why they needed the TV turned down.
#ExposeChristianHomeschooling doesnt just stop at regular education. My siblings turned 18 having no idea that they were entering adulthood with still-disabling symptoms of #autism. I didn't know I am on the spectrum because I was so perfectly trained to be an nt adult so young.
At homeschool conventions my parents attended workshops on raising "special needs" kids. They were told they could do it all on their own w/ this un-peer-reviewed curriculum or that "brain training" system. They were told the public school options took away their right to parent.
There were even some highly educated ppl running workshops & selling curriculum in later years. One knew a lot about our situation & how educationally neglectful it was... & did nothing. She made tons of money from homeschoolers & did not consider us worth the "risk" to her.
All this so my parents could have perfect control, unconcerned w/ mandatory reporters or an education that might teach us about ourselves and how to exist outside their influence. It was a nightmare of emotional, physical, and medical abuse. #ExposeChristianHomeschooling
#Disabled, #neurodivergent, #ActuallyAutistic, and all other students who need more specialized educations and medical attention are neglected by Christian homeschoolers. It is inherently #abusive and must be stopped via the legal system et al.
If you encounter this thread and want to know more about work to protect homeschooled kids, try: @ResponsibleHS, @RLStollar, @KEBrightbill, & /never/ HSLDA. If the same about autistics, try @autselfadvocacy, @AutismSociety , & NEVER Autism Speaks.

And one final thing: remember how at the top I said no one told my sibs until they were 20? Through the grapevine I heard my parents had told them exclusively because I said I would if they didn't. I couldn't bear the guilt of it anymore, nor participate in the neglect.
But long before that, I had been arguing with them about it, having screaming matches about it. I was deeply traumatized into keeping the family secret. I don't carry any blame, but I still struggle feeling like I do. That maybe they could have had a community if I'd told them.
And such is the power of homeschooling. Driving children into these ultra controlling, abusive situations with no way out where they have no choice but to participate in their own abuse and abuse of others.
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