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This is gonna be stream of consciousness, so forgive the typos and the nonsequiters.

Big data first: Brooke M officially died yesterday at 10 AM, at 14 years, 10 months, 2 weeks.
When she was 12, she signed her own organ donation card.
Final trip to OR was tonight.
Brooke’s corneas will give people vision. Her heart will give life to someone else. Her pancreas, her liver, and kidneys will give others life without suffering. That is what Brooke wanted, and what she just considered the right thing.

If you haven’t signed your card: do it now.
Truly: your life will not be shortened. I just watched nurses keep manual bagging Brooke for as long it took to get the OR open, and for her heart to be scheduled. For six hours, they did everything. It’s hard for the survivors, but it’s the kindest thing you can do.
Brooke never met a stranger. Nobody ever disliked her because she just would not allow it. We had a steady stream of her friends from both her high school and her STEM school in Savannah all afternoon.

You want to donate in her honor: Savannah STEM Academy (DM for last name.)
She was brilliant, and beautiful, and kind to everyone she ever met, and could be snarky and sarcastic and goofy as hell. Her schools have retired her jersey number in her honor. Losing her is losing a spark from the world, but her light cannot be extinguished.

She is eternal.
My niece R (privacy maintained) is doing okay. She is processing better than her parents, I think.

I think my XBIL’s girlfriend should watch her ass, because R is not going to tolerate much of the girlfriend in her future life.

And maybe not her father, either.
Brooke was the tactician; R is the strategist. (R will win vs the GF.) R’s patient, and she’s just as clever as Brooke. And she’s quieter, and she has just learned how fast her life can change. She’s angry, and she deserves to be.
My sister has a core of incredible friends here, who have been a better aunt to my nieces than me (1000 miles away) and better sisters to my sister.

I’m so profoundly grateful to every one of them. My sister has great taste in friends.

(Also, we were baking cookies in Utah.)
The other kids in the accident survived. That’s going to be hard for those kids, and their families, and what’s coming. Because... this is going to be ugly. The aftermath of a child’s death... when there is fault.... That’s for the law.

Seatbelts. Helmets. ALWAYS.
Brooke’s death is harder for us, because we had to watch. She was gone so fast. She never knew. And she was happy in those last hours. She was out with friends, and then she was gone. We have... data. Social media. It helps a little.
My XBIL’s family... well, we’re in the South. Passive-aggressive is an art form, one my sister’s learned, twice over. She knows the Mormon version, too.

They’re not people we should have chosen, but we have to deal with them.

They have their guilt & little absolution coming.
Because the reason my niece was where this accident was even possible was because her father deliberately wanted to isolate her and limit her horizons. He’s a maga type. He built and forced my sister to keep (in the divorce) a house in de facto white only neighborhood.
He forced them out of their urban neighborhood because he couldn’t cope with Brooke’s friends. (Whom I met today, and they’re delightful.) No ATVs in the city, no back roads without street lights. No dark, blind corners.
He preferred my niece at a school with a 35% dropout rate, one that pushes out 2/3 of its black male students before they graduate HS. 40% of its Latinx students. But only 8% of the white kids. (I do math when I’m stressed. I loaded the data set and played with it on the plane.)
The normal disparity is 3-5% in a well integrated school. These numbers stand out like neon compared to even Savannah-Chatham public schools.

If you don’t think the racists in this area DON’T know which schools discriminate, let me show you some bridges. It’s THAT obvious.
He’s also been abusive & controlling, especially financially. It’s cost him one daughter’s life, and probably the relationship with the other. If not now, in the near future.
Racism & misogyny & abuse go together. Men who think they own women also treat others badly. Because it’s always about power.

I won’t say Brooke died of racism. That would be claiming something that’s not ours. This was cruel, stupid, selfish decisions putting a girl in the...
... wrong place at the wrong time.
But his intolerance and his obsessions with survivalism and conspiracy theories put her in a more dangerous place.

We have to find her light through doing better. And speaking up before intolerance hurts someone else.

Thank you all.
One last: I will be deleting some of these tweets before I unlock my account. Not because I’m afraid to say what I’ve said, but because I’m not letting him be warned.

Thanks for understanding.

Savannah-Chatham STEM Academy…
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