I’m a behaviorist, and I don’t advertise it to people I don’t give a shit about.
I’m a good behaviorist, but seriously, what I saw today doesn’t require good.
There’s a reason we talk about passive-aggressive behavior as *aggressive*. It’s actually pure meanness.
And one of the problems with passive-aggression is that people raised with it are attracted to others raised with it, so it becomes endemic in family lines.
Note that it shows up all over Cluster B.
BECAUSE MAKING PEOPLE DOUBT THEIR FEELINGS IS DEEPLY TOXIC.
Because my XBIL lied to my sister for two years about an affair. He kept trying to say it was just a friendship, but friends don’t hide that way.
Across the road from them, there’s a guy with a freshly painted, well maintained sign that literally rants about the fact that he will murder anyone who knocks on his door. “I will shoot you graveyard dead” is an actual quote. Apparently, he’s been there for decades.
I grew up with Bundyites. I know cray, I know SovCits. No.
That’s a mental health crisis and a danger to everyone who has the misfortune to break down on that state highway.
He *wants* someone to knock on his door so he can shoot them full of holes & watch them die.
It’s all deeply wrong shit, but better to just live with deeply wrong than actually examine it, think about it, work the problem. That’s a form of evil.
But this is toxic, and it’s so common it’s a cultural trope. (Mormondom has it, too. That’s why I’m pointing it out.)
(Yep: I don’t respect the XBIL’s fam enough to be honest with them. I also don’t care.)
Covert white supremacy? Pretends everything is fine, denies reality.
You bet your knickers. I have no patience left for racism in any form. And yeah, I look down hard on people who say “it’s the way they were raised” or “it’s what they’re taught.”
Fuck no. They can use the goddam cable box? They can think past hate.
But just because it’s open doesn’t make it kinder.
And trying to excuse it is complying with it. Trying to pretend it happens *like this* elsewhere? It’s a lot of self-deception, but it’s also abdicating responsibility.
If one pretends Northerners & Westerners are just as racist (just differently), then there’s no reason to shun one’s *local* racists. Because they’re just better at hiding it.
It’s perpetuating a culture of passive-aggression.
Excusing those who refuse to take any steps is enabling them, just as passive-aggressive family dynamics enable.
She had an 11 yo mutual crush (3 years ago) on a black kid. That’s when my XBIL insisted they build on the whites only prepper woods.
Thus why she was in that ATV.
That’s the POINT of civilization: outsourcing safety to foresight & thinking shit through.