An integral part of the human condition, one we are encouraged to embrace at almost every turn in life, no matter how horrible the offense.
Well, what is the real “deal” w forgiveness?
“In my family, the very act of unforgiveness is an extortion of my soul," -Katz, a psychotherapist. "It endorses what they did, which was2deny the truth & pressure me2sacrifice myself. 4me not 2 forgive my brother at my parents' behest is my self-affirmation."
“Anybody who struggles with intimate betrayal must reengage with the experience, actively choosing to think and to feel what was once unbearable. But understanding need not lead to forgiveness.”
We tend to think of forgiveness as the best, healthiest way to resolve an intimate injury, and of learning to forgive as one of life's greatest lessons. Sometimes the opposite is true.