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Good morning everyone
This thread once again is for those who are married. No vex! I know I am biased. Forgive me!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏

Today i want to talk about physical attraction between spouses
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You might be wondering if there is no physical attraction between spouses they wont be married in the first place? You are right but over time physical attraction can wear off. Marriage like relationship has to be nurtured
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Many assume that once you are married its over. You have shown you love each other. You have made the biggest commitment and professed your love to each other before the world and there is nothing more to do. Wrong!
This is the beginning of what to do!
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Marriage is for better for worse and till death do you apart right? That can be a long time coming. So in between that you must keep yourself attracted to each other and keep the love flame burning.
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Else you wake up one day thinking what the heck did i see in this person? Many a times couples let themselves go physically and emotionally. Today our attention is on physical attraction
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Islam as a religion is a complete way of life and it guides everything we do and talks about every aspect of life.
It talks about kissing, foreplay, love making (even styles) grooming self for sex .
Did you just move your chair forward? Oya adjust! Gist plenty
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You get reward from God for every time you make love to your spouse. Isnt that fantastically fantastic?
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The companions of the Prophet were astonished at this and he explained since one gets punished for engaging in love making out of wedlock one is rewarded for engaging in it in wedlock.
#Equity
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One of the way to keep yourselves physically attracted to each other is to ensure you are always well groomed. You should look nice and smell nice. One should not go down anywhere and get nasal assault
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Islamically a woman is supposed to be bathed and perfumed before the husband comes homes. Finish all your cooking in time if you are the one cooking. You should not be smelling of onions while a man too is to be bathed and perfumed before going to his wife
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There is a need for couples to look good at home. Dressing up is when you are at home and not just when you are going out. You should care about how you look to each other more than how you look to others

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Seeing your spouse all the time in some unappealing clothes and unmade and ungroomed face will over time kill the sexual drive.
She, always in drab dresses or wrappers and He, in tattered shorts or jallabiya can quench the lights joor

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Its not easy doing this i agree but nothing good comes easy. Your job or business if you dont put effort on it would you see significant growth? So also is your marriage.
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Before marriage i never used to put make up nit even eye pencil. I was a rebel 😁😁😁😁
My own thinking was if a man can look handsome without make up why do i need make up to be beautiful?
Neither did i care about fashion. All that had to change after marriage
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Though i dont go out with make up i apply it at home. Many of my girlfriends do not recognise me at home. I laugh at the shock on their faces first time they see me at home without make up. A question i get often is Are you going out?
For me make up is for home
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Its not easy when you just want to wear a comfortable old dress to be making up but like i said nothing good comes easy. As a man wear your form fitting clothes for your wife. Wear those things that make you sexy.
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Marriage is give and take. My husband likes to wear baggy jeans that make him comfortable, i hate them so he has form fitting jeans that i love. When he is going on his own he wears the ones he likes when we are together he wears the one i love
Win win!
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Take care of your personal hygiene. Don't wear bra or boxer until it begins to assault the nasal cavity of your spouse. Change them frequently. Get at least up to seven so you have something for everyday. The more the better. Its a good investment!
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Plait your hair! Cut your hair. Once a week is ideal. Carry styles you can maintain very well. Nothing turns one off like smelly hair. The whole thing go just die!

If you keep beard make it neat and sexy. Dont be doing ustaz with ungroomed beard. Its a turn off!
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Take care of your bodies. Its difficult but it helps. Eat right and do exercise. Your intimacy will benefit from it. You panting after just 30 seconds can put her off. You lying there like a log unable to gyrate can put him off
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Let me come back to clothing. This is more for women than men because men are more into visual. It is what they see that turns them on while women are more auditory. Its what they hear that turns them on. Notwithstanding both have to do a bit of both
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Let me start with the wife. Your wardrobe must contain clothing that is just for you and your husband. Especially for Muslim woman who wears hijab out.

There is part of your wardrobe that is just for the house. You must keep them along with your regular clothes
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Even if you live with non Muharrams(these are male a woman has to cover herself from, including cousins & brother in laws) where you still have to cover, make sure you have those clothes at home for you and him in the room. It turns a man on to know this is for him
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One clothing you MUST have in your wardrobe. Infact this clothing should be labelled as weapon of mass destruction. It can cause anything oooh🙂🙂🙂

BUM SHORT
Very short piece of clothing but it can turn full grown man no matter the age into M U M U
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I dont know what's with men and a woman's bum. They want to hold it, touch it, grab it, ,slap it (playfully of course) especially the bum cheek ( my husband said to me where do i get all these words from🤩) what better way to accentuate it than by bum shorts
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Imagine both of you alone in the house with your bum short and cropped top or a see through top.😋
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Your little dresses too are very important! LBD, LRD very important. Show your husband what your mama gave you
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Then lets go to the mother of all the clothing items LINGERIE.
You have to invest in this. Some of them are outlandishly expensive but they are worth it. Its investment that appreciate over time and gives passive income( thats the business woman in me talking)🤩
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Make sure you have an arsenal of sexy lingerie. The key to using them is to work smartly.
Your grandma night gown is the most comfortable but least sexually appealing. Have it but also have the others to use when needed.
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The sexy lingerie are meant to be off any way, so you can still wear your grandma one after if you have energy to be looking for anything. They might not be as comfortable as the others but its for a short time and the effort put in increases the attraction
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G-string is a must have oooh! If you dont have, go to the market tomorrow. There is nothing to be ashamed of! Na your husband!
Its not very comfortable i know but you dont have to wear all day. Its for that moment. It can be an hour or two.
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If you can endure an hour or two of sitting diwn snd veing made up you also can endure wearing G-string for an hour or two. You gotta work on this thing oooh. Sexual satisfaction makes up a huge part of #HappyMarriage
Those lacy bras are absolutely necessary. Men retained their baby suckling tendencies so make it an experience.
Victoria Secrets have a lot for different imagination and fantasies. If you are adventurous go for garters😍😍😍
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Imagine your husband coming home and meeting you in your garter and 9 inch high heels. Feed him and do a bit of strip teasing. You will be sure of reward from God
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Let me talk about men clothing too before i go to other physically attracting activities both husband and wife can engage in.
Please a woman wants to see her man looking sexy no matter the age. Ejoor MAKE THE EFFORT!
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You can have your baggy boxers tgat make you feel comfortable for your daily routine but have those form fitting ones just for wifey. There are different cuts go get them. Same thing with singlets

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Get real good form fitting jeans and shirts plus T shirts. Sew some fitted natives. We women also like to show off our husbands. Who no like better thing?
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Imagine your wife coming back home to meet you wearing sexy form fitting clothes. You feed her and then strip tease for her. Guy go and plan it. We read a lot of Mills and Booms and our fantasy is to try all with our husbands. Some are too shy to ask🙈
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There are many things on clothing i have not written. Work out what works for you. Be groomed and sexy.
Invent little things that is special to you both that make you chuckle when you are apart
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Let me reiterate this, personal hygiene is very necessary.
Please dont go to bed with all the day's sweat still on you. It quenches the light faster than NEPA! Shower! Have some light perfumes for this. Its a geographical exploration from top to bottom
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This tongue is the best of all navigating equipment. It can discover the undiscovered and rediscover tbe discovered
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Few things i want to talk about
Foreplay
Lap dancing
Strip teasing
Pole dancing
Play acting
Dates
Holding hands
Kissing
Hugging
Sexting
Gisting
Some of them sound ordinary but they have such profound effect on our relationship
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Off tp pray. Will be back Insha Allah
I am back!😍
First amongst the things I want to talk about is Foreplay. This is an area most husbands dont pay attention to. Many are in a hurry. Others just focus on themselves. Islamically foreplay is a mandatory part of love making
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Fore play for most women does not start from touching. It starts from what we hear. Women are more auditory. She needs ro be in the mood. She needs to hear how much you care for her. Call her! Send her texts. She will be in the mood even before the time
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Foreplay is very important. Dont assume because you are married your love making should be dull or taken for granted.
Approach every intimacy as if its your first. Explore each other. Take time out. Spend hours on yourselves. That's why its called love making
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As you grow older you would find yourself being adventurous & wanting to test new things. Be comfortable with each other to do that. On our wedding night i told my husband any fantasy he ever has he should let me know. He has and almost 21 years later i fulfil each
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We were brought up to see our sexuality as evil and many have not been able to overcome it. Many marriages get issues due more to sexual frustrations than anything else
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There are different things you can do to spice up the foreplay. Candles, sexy lingerie, chocolates, you can lick food/items off each other(there are different flavours), lights etc.
Ensure you give lots of attention to foreplay

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Lap dancing, pole dancing and strip teasing are in the same category but for the fun of it I will take each separately.
They are basically to spice up things.
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Let me start with lap dancing. Its a naughty way of keep your spouse engaged and happy. Lap dancing can be done by both. You dont need any equipment. Just a sense of rhythm and a bit of strength and control
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Get in the mood with some sexy lingerie. Put on some music. Islamically dancing is not allowed in public (but with your spouse lets have the ulamas decipher this)
Get down to it with gyration. If you are a good dancer it helps. You can control your hip movement
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My all time favourite music for lap dancing is Summer body by Olamide. It has different points where you can wind, go down and come up. There is slow winding and when it is a fast and moments you can go down quick & up 🙈🙈🙈🙈
Second is All Over by Tiwa Savage😎
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All this really is to spice up your marriage. As a Muslim when you get married you have fulfilled half of your religious obligations. The other half is by worshipping God, keeping your spouse happy and living a good life with others
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Next i want to talk about is strip teasing. Taking off your clothing item by item for the fun of your partner. Even if you are not in the best of shape you can still do it. You can laugh over how you both have changed. Laughter helps in marriage
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Tease your spouse with every piece of clothing before taking it off. Scented candles helps and you can have special lights. If you dont have special lights put off all lights except one so its not too harsh. Its strip teasing not medical examinations ☺
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Pole dancing is one i have not engaged in but i have been trying to get where i can learn it. It would be a fabulous way of teasing your spouse but one has to be physically active and strong and requires special equipment.
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When my children move out or if we build a new house i am making one room a pole dancing room 🤩🤩🤩🤩
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Dates are very important aspect of marriage. Many go on dates before marriage and forget about such after marriage. Dates is more for after marriage than before marriage. It gives you opportunity to appreciate each other. Have weekly date nights
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Holding hands might sound mundane but when last did you hold your spouse's hand when you went outside? Try it and gauge for yourself how it makes you feel. You can decide if its something you want to do
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I love holding my husband's hand . It turns me on! He is ensuring i am in front of him. He is holding the door for me. He puts his habds on my back to help me through i love. I love leaning on him and being a baby
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Make touching each other a habit especially at home. There is something reinforcing about physical touch. My husband loves rubbing my head. I used to dislike it but now i love it. You are passing by you touch or rub your spouse
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Sometimes you have to tell your spouse what yiu want. We were not brought up to show affection. It was discouraged so we need to teach and learn from each other.

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I had to let my husband know things i wanted him to do to make me feel loved. Its not about money. Some are just little things. For example i want to be hugged and just held for a minute or two. I can do 10 minutes 😁😁😁
He is still working on it
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Hugs are a great part of reinforcing physical relationship. Hug yourselves very often. Whenever you see each other even if its a few minutes apart. You can hug a million times a day. Its a way of appreciating being together.
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Let hugs be part of your family.
I am writing this piece now so i need a bit of concentration so i am not with my husband like i normally would be when tweeting. He just walked into the room to rub my head and touch my arm. Earlier i went out to hug him.
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The touching doesn't have to be major. You walking by and you touch his or her neckline. Or you pull his/ her nose
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Kissing or pecking is one thing i never saw my parents do. Neither was it done to us. Only very little kids it was done to and as soon as they grew a little they got none of that or hugging. I promised myself my family would be different and Alhamdulillah it is
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Kissing is a very necessary act of showing affection. It brings closeness. It can bring you all together. My son is taller than me and more likely to hug and kiss me on my head. We are a very close amd affectionate family.
Islamically, kissing is allowed even during menstruation and fasting. Just dont take it to another stage.
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Gisting is another very important part of marriage that helps with physical attraction. Ability to communicate with each other, talk about anything, laugh together helps you feel more at ease with each other and more relaxed and open to each other
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Those gists that last into the nights are the best. We can do till day break of gisting. Not serious talk but talking about everything and anything. Some are gists we have gisted more than a million times before. We still talk abiut them as if they are new.
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Sexting is a new phenomenon that replaced love letter writing. Gosh those days! I used to write love notes and put in the pockets of my husband's clothes and he found them when he wore them. As an auditor he used to travel a lot
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Today i send text and voice notes. For his ears only. Its fun and can turn one on.
I dont send pictures or videos because its islamically not acceptable.
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Finally the last one i have to talk about is play acting! I dont know if that's the name but that's how i can describe it. This is it!
The ability to act like little kids. Sometimes as if you are meeting each other for the first time and just be goofy helps
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About 10 years ago i was in a restaurant with my friends and besides us were this young couple who from seeing them were at the beginning of their relationship. That puppy love stage and they just kept acting goofy. Laughing over nothing
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Seeing them reminded me of how i was with my husband in the early days of our relationship and i realised that was missing in our relationship and how that used to make our relationship fun. I had to play doctor and my he play patient for me to diagnose he loved me
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Leaving that restaurant that day i vowed to bring that back into our relationship. Having ability to learn helps marriages. Even if you are not doing something you can learn and use it positively. Today myself and husband can play act like kids
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My husband can touch me and i would say in a little voice don't touch me. My mother said i should not allow any man to touch me. He would say Am i any man? I would say i dont know you ooooh. Its fun & has helped stimulate our marriage now approaching its 21st year #HappyMarriage
We act out different scenarios. Sometimes i tell my husband he has to toast me all over again. He obliges. It has helped us keep things fun, spicy, zesty and fresh. No dull moments
We are more like two teenagers in love than oldies married for almost 21 years
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Marriage with the right person and the right commitment and works can be the most exhilarating experience while with the wrong person can be the most depressingly heartbreaking experience.
There is a person for you. Don't settle for less
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I hope this thread helps someone out there
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Whatever is in this thread is less than 10% of what goes on in my house. Too x rated to be written down. With your spouse you can go as far as your imagination can take you.
My husband teases me & say i do iron lady outside if only they can see what i do at home🙈
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