There *are* nonbinary women and woman-aligned people! But it's not true for all nonbinary people/nonbinary people in general.
I often see "women and enbies" used to mean "anyone who isn't a cis man" or "anyone who experiences gender-based discrimination"
but binary trans men exist and deserve better than to be ignored or listed as women+.
When you say "women and enbies" what you really mean is probably "women and AFAB people" or "women and people perceived as women"
And they're probably not who you're thinking of when you say "women and enbies".
it can be really painful to be listed as women+.
And then "allies" come along and list me as a woman or woman-adjacent anyway
a w e s o m e
And then phrase it in a way that doesn't exclude people you should be including, or include people who wouldn't want to be included.
I'm not saying trans men belong in women's spaces. I'm saying that I often see people saying "women and enbies"
when they mean "anyone who faces systemic discrimination based on their gender"
they should be included *in some contexts*
but ignore that trans men often don't have the same opportunities in publishing that cis men have
If you mean people who are perceived as women by outsiders, say that.
If you mean people who menstruate, say that.
If you mean anyone who experiences gender-based discrimination/violence, say that.
And once you've done that, your second step should be making sure your phrasing doesn't
- include anyone who shouldn't be included
- exclude anyone who should be included
women and woman-aligned nonbinary people who are comfortable being included,
but not trans men or enbies who don't identify with womanhood and/or don't want to be included in women's spaces etc