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No, marriage has not historically been my "niche."

And I don't really intend for it to be moving forward.

But, part of being DIALED IN — if you *are married* — is having an *awesome* and sustainable marriage.

As such, here's 8 quick tips to have an DIALED IN marriage.

A good marriage is not always 50/50. That’s not realistic.

Sometimes it’s 50/50, sometimes is 80/20, sometimes it’s 40/60 — just depends on the situation.

It’s easy to love when everything is going well.

Carry the load when your spouse needs you to, preferably w/o them asking.
Don’t keep score.

Just focus on giving more than you get.

If you’re doing that, and asking yourselves, “What can I do for him/her?” Instead of, “What am I getting out of this?” you’ll be together for a long time.
Too many people invest far more time, money and energy into planning their wedding rather than planning their marriage.

Worry more about the marriage than the wedding. Seriously.
Your marriage should be your primary relationship — not your only one.

Stay close to family and friends.

And for goodness sakes, don't do everything together.

Be your own person. Have your own hobbies.

And some friends that don't overlap.

Trying to fix your spouse will never work and only make them resentful.

You married them. Don't be a nag.

Think of their hang ups as a chronic illness and move on.

Fix yourself first...

... And don't be surprised when they follow your lead.
Connect before your correct.

What's that mean?

It means stop judging and start considering.

They might be wrong, but hear them out first.

Really listen and consider their point of view.

You can agree to disagree, or even prove them wrong, but hear them out first.
Perhaps most importantly... make sure your core values are aligned.

You don't have to practice the exact same religion, but Christianity and Atheism isn't likely to work out.

Same goes for having kids vs. not having kids.

I shouldn't have to tell you this.

Moving on...
Lastly, always remember that marriage isn't a fixed experience.

It's a continuous one.

Your marriage will change... It will ebb and flow, but remember...

Til death do us part.

Choose your partner everyday.

The secret to a long marriage is easy… just stay married.
• Maybe you could use a refresher to get re-aligned
• Or you want to turn your good marriage into a great marriage
• Or you know it'd be worthwhile to revisit the basics
• Or you just want to lay a foundation

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