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Hey Warrior Mamas-Are we awake enough yet to see this whole BS critique of Middle Class parenting for the BS Culture War narrative it’s always been?

I have some thoughts on this in my #AmericanXMom (™) WIP.

/#FightLikeAMother thread
This attack on parenting has been ongoing since the 90’s. By who though, and why? Let’s think about the underlying message: that it’s wrong to teach little kids to expect any recognition for hard work in favor of maintaining the narrative they must, what? Learn to be losers?

“The Everyone Gets a Trophy generation” has been an insult by the right primarily against Millennials. Millennials- the first generation large enough, highly educated enough & middle class enough to challenge the longstanding narratives of the American elite status quo.

As former latchkey kids & children of divorce, GenX Moms were committed to being more involved parents. We reacted to our childhood neglect with hyper focus on our kids. Like all hard pendulum swings, our reaction was both good & bad. Snowplow/Helicopter parenting wasn’t good.
But, teaching kids to play by the rules & be recognized for their teamwork, dedication & project completion by rewarding them w/ little participation trophies wasn’t bad. Not unless you’re an employer who relies on workers expecting nothing unless they were the chosen winner.
As a mom, I assure you my kids instinctively know the difference between a participation trophy & the winner’s trophy. And they also know the joy of seeing children on the spectrum or suffering from disabilities receive recognition for their hard work.
My kids are GenZ, another enormous & potentially transformative group just starting to reach voting age. The most diverse gen in American history, they also learned that only the “winners” deserve recognition while the rest must learn theor place as quiet & gracious losers.
As the most educated gens, Millenials & Z are also aware there are few truly equal teams. Some are full of those whose parents sponsored the team to have the best training & equipment (see the college admission scandal) while others are armed only with grit & determination.
Sports & children’s activities where GenX parents agreed to recognize all children have helped develop frameworks for understanding the world & the ability to adapt the rules of the game when enough people choose compassion over hyper-competition.
Of course, this seemingly trivial change in how little kids’ trophies are awarded upsets the dogmatic American status quo Laissez-Faire morality of rewarding winners & completely ignoring losers -regardless of the hurdles each had to overcome just to play the game.
So, while I’m open to the critiques of the pendulum swing of Xer parenting, I see clearly that the Right’s Culture War on the notion “Every Kid Gets a Trophy” is nothing more than fear of what our children will do with this knowledge that losers don’t have to be ignored.

GenX has always been seen as too small to impact politics. But, that idea ignores our leadership role as the parents who shaped these two gigantic generations which absolutely will change things.

From the soccer field to the #MarchForOurLives, our kids are #GenXAmplified

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