Secondly - and this is in response to a person who came at me yesterday - no one “dies from elopement”,
I’m sure that idea is a comfort to warrior parents but - at least in my case - that’s not accurate.
Living with parents who are awful, unaccommodating, without empathy, who are abusive - verbally, physically, emotionally - is bad for anyone. I’m not discounting the awfulness of abuse when it happens to allistic kids.
That is the reality I lived, and that’s the reality that SO many of my autistic friends lived.
I had thoughts like that at least as early as 6 or 7 years old - as far as I can remember. It may even have been earlier.
As I got older (~11), I did more *wandering*.
I could go somewhere more quiet if I liked, I could head in areas with fewer people if I liked, and I didn’t have anyone telling me how broken I was. It was peaceful. I enjoyed having peace.
In my experience with warrior parents, they don’t want to hear this, because it just adds to their self victimization narrative. They take it as an attack on them, rather than as a valuable source of information that they can learn from.
Literally, it could just be that their TV and/or lights may be emitting a high pitched noise that is intolerable.
Imagine being put through 40 hours a week of abusive compliance therapy, because your parents didn’t want to change the types of lightbulb?
Compliance therapy isn’t going to make that lightbulb or that cleaning solution any less painful to deal with, it’s just going to make that kid bottle it up.
I guess what I really want parents to take away from this is that anything your autistic child is doing that is annoying or distressing to you... is because something is annoying or distressing to them.
Personally, I hope you go with the latter, as it will make things better for *everyone*.