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One thing I hear often is that my wife (who's trans) & I are in a "heterosexual relationship" or a "straight relationship." That my wife is a "man" and that we need to stop "pretending" to be in a lesbian relationship because we have "straight privilege."

Um, let's explore that.
First, let me preface this by saying that no, my wife is not a man. She's never been a man. She was always a woman, but the world perceived her as a man for much of her life.

Back then, we were perceived as straight, and benefited from the safety and privileges of that.
When she transitioned, that privilege we once had was gone. Whether you see her as a woman or not, our society and our laws see her as one. And with that comes a loss of privilege shared by other same-sex/same-gender couples.
How does the lack of straight privilege show up in our lives? In many ways:
- Right-wing politicians and activists threaten our right to be married
- Our children face discrimination
- We have to think twice before showing affection in public
(Oh, there's more...)
- We research school boards and organizations to make sure they're LGBTQ+ friendly
- We worry each election cycle that our rights could be affected
- We never stop coming out to people
- Just living our lives opens us up to judgement and is makes us unsafe
So no, we don't benefit from straight privilege. And no, we're not a straight couple. And no, my wife is not a man. And no amount of telling me "lesbians are homoSEXUAL/same SEX attracted" changes any of this. At all.
So go ahead and play the semantics game if you must. Base your worldview on chromosomes. But just scratching the surface of a cis/trans relationship involving two women or two men will debunk any notion of "straight privilege" whatsoever.

Okay. Back to my big, bad, gay self.
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