1.) You don't know what you want out of marriage and you don't know how to express it.
Seriously, what does a happy marriage mean to you? To your spouse?
Do you *ever* talk about this? Why not?
Honestly ask yourself, "Am I doing my part?"
It's really easy to say "I love you," when you go to work in the morning and go to sleep at night, but are you demonstrating that with your actions?
This isn't debate competition.
Shoot for resolution, not your personal satisfaction.
Focus on the current disagreement and don't bring up old wounds.
Picture the person you fell in love and argue with THAT person.
You're spouse is not your *everything.*
And your life doesn't have to revolve around the kids 24/7.
Stay interesting by doing interesting things.
An occasional day away will make you appreciate your family even more.
You've fallen into a routine and allowed things to stagnate.
"I do all these things... they do nothing... I'm a victim."
Make a list of all the awesome things your spouse does for you.
You might be surprised.
Of course you're going to think differently & communicate in different ways.
Add in jobs, kids and other obligations and it's no wonder that you have misunderstandings, but don't let that ruin your marriage.
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