Thread by @TipsForTarbiyah

“If you don’t hear children making noise at the back of the Masjid, fear for your future generations”

As parents, we should never deprive our child of basic morals and etiquettes. Especially Adaabs of the masjid and madressah. There are sooo many children out there who don’t know what the Qibla is, what Salah is, how many Rakahs are in each prayer.

They don’t even know how to make Wudhu but they have soo much desire to pray, that whenever it’s Salah time. Regardless where they are, they just put a cloth down and start praying. This can only be done if the children have seen the parents praying.

Adab and Akhlaaq are gained mainly from the mother then discipline, hard work and assistance from the father. Imam Malik’s mother used to tie his Imamah and say teach him Adab before you teach him knowledge.

“With good manners comes good fortune”

The Tarbiyyah of the children should be such, that if they’re playing at the back and it gets loud, our child should be the one to remind them to keep it down as people are praying. When it comes to playing, they have fun, but when it comes to praying, they’re serious.

Parents need to ensure that they strike this balance.

A really useful method is praying near your child. Company has a huge affect and if they know that you’re nearby, they will be hesitant before messing about. Then once you’re confident that they can be left alone

and won’t cause anyone inconvenience then you can gradually make your way to the first Saff (for the men), in seclusion (for the women). So the children realise that they are trusted and they’re given an opportunity to fulfil this trust to the best of their ability.

We should keep in mind that just as we shower our children with everything they want, let us not deprive them of things they need like good Akhlaaq and Adab.

This would result in the child becoming such a great personality from whom we can gain numerous dua’s so that after we leave this world they will be our greatest investment.

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