I'm not going to link to or screenshot it, it's old.
But it fits a general pattern I want to talk about.
Person 1: *shows example of homophobia*
Person 2: I don't understand why gay people get this treatment when trans people are worshipped as stunning and brave.
Person 1: In fairness, it's not like that everywhere. Real life isn't like Tumblr.
But I want to talk about two sentiments: "stunning and brave" and "Tumblr vs. real life."
Buuuuuut that literally never happened. There never was a time period when people stopped criticizing her.
It's not something we want, or seek out. It doesn't benefit us.
Like: "Reminder: Trans girls are amazing."
These folks would tell us: life isn't like that for a small town high schooler.
It's real people, like: queer kids in small towns.
To people who are only transphobic, it only applies to trans people.
Okay, so, I just completed my survey of my learned correspondent's public statements about trans bathroom bans, and I found something even worse than real life vs. Tumblr.
We don't start the bathroom conversation; when other people do, though, we *have to* participate, because it's life/death.
But it gets labeled as hyperbole. I know, it *sounds* hyperbolic. The right to pee is the right to be? Sounds like we're obsessed with urination.
And got stopped going in.
That was the incident that made me realize there was no safe medium for me, no "suck it up" that would work.
So was the number of times I was assaulted in one.