They pick people charm, flatter, be generous to and keep on side. Those people rarely see the abuse.
And those who are being abused see how tight they are with the abuser and tell them nothing.
Predators are often excellent manipulators.
It's hard to believe someone who's been lovely to you is vile to others.
They depend on that.
It was essential to the predator's survival to keep them in the dark.
They're smart enough to hide that shit from us.
Then BIPoC see us hanging out with racists and avoid us cause we obviously can't be trusted.
How could they not?
Upthread is how they could not.
Meanwhile the folks who can protect a predator are busily being charmed by them.
Look at how Michael Jackson groomed the parents of his victims.
But the predator works hard to keep that knowledge from spreading on the upward vertical axis. The predator works overtime to have their peers and superiors on side.
Just look out how many are convinced that there's a high rate of false reports of sexual assault. There is not.
There's a high rate of people NOT reporting sexual assault.