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Problem with sexual fetishes is that people who have them are obsessed. It’s not like a fetishist can take his fetish cap off when he goes to work. Thoughts and urges get them anywhere, and they escalate over time, especially thanks to porn. Fetishes aren’t heathy or normal.
I’m sick and tired of this gaslighting. “Kinkshaming” is gaslighting. People should be vigilant about who they employ. Masturbating at work is unacceptable, more so if it’s premeditated, involves a fetish, is filmed and posted online and workplace is charity for vulnerable kids.
We urgently need and inquiry that’ll analyse what went wrong with postmodernism and queer theory, that they managed to seize minds of intelligent adults and guilt-tripped them with words like “kinkshaming” and “bigot” into abandoning all common sense and increasingly, laws.
Some further thoughts. Almost all sexual fetishists are male. Women who participate in these fetishes tend to be aroused by the way men with fetishes treat them, or be profiting off them, not be fetishists themselves. In that sense sexual fetishism is a very gendered phenomenon.
Sexual fetishism in essence fetishises submission. It gets arousal from things that are safe bc they can’t talk back. Clothes, body parts etc. When they involve people they typically “fetishise” coercion and submission. Even of self (autoerotic asphyxiation, autogynaphilia etc).
All research on fetishes derived post internet age is flawed because fetishes are extremely highly represented in porn and by forcing porn into the mainstream, it’s become “cool” and part of many men’s sexual practice, women are drawn in like with everything else porn-related.
But this is not fetishism in a real sense, unless the roots can be traced back to formative years or person can’t orgasm without it. Now, it’s often a part of porn addiction, symptom of porn sickness that has taken hold of our society.
Pre-porn research and work in this area gives a much more accurate idea about incidence and aetiology of sexual fetishism. It’s exclusive, can’t orgasm without it situation and it views sexual partners as gatekeepers to their orgasm, which is essentially dehumanising.
Also, connection between paraphilias and sexual offending must not be overlooked or disregarded. Men will go to unbelievable lengths to indulge and defend their sexual fetishes. Institutions and positions of power are a godsend to them. Consider the implications.
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