Thread by @DamagedBttm

Answering your questions about bottoming: a thread ✨

I got about 14 million questions relating to douching/staying clean/diet, so I'm not going to post screenshots of each question. I'm just going to write my entire routine and fold in all of the questions I got from y'all

I should also make a note that this is everything that works FOR ME. Every body is different, and a lot of the time what works for one person won't work for another. So, if what I do doesn't work for you, that's okay. We're all built differently

DIET
My diet is extremely inconsistent. I keep track of calories/macros, but that's it. I avoid dairy (unless I have lactaid), rarely eat anything spicier than green pepper hot sauce, and don't really eat red meat. On top of that, I take fiber pills

I'm not going to lie and say all fiber pills are the same, but my gut has always been pretty good at it's job, so I've never needed anything more than store brand. Follow the instructions on the bottle (mine say to take 2) and it will dramatically reduce your time spent douching

DOUCHING
I'm gonna get a little graphic here, but you've all seen my asshole get torn to shreds at least 100 times so you'll survive

I like these way more than the reusable ones, and odds are, if you have questions about douching, you don't own a reusable douche. I'm going to stick to advice surrounding these

First of all, Fleet makes a bunch of different kinds of enemas. I like to buy the 70% extra volume because it goes way faster. If you're new, you should probably stick to the original. Avoid the mineral oil ones because the walls of the douche are too thick for reuse

Step 1: empty out the saline water that comes in the douche when you buy it. The saline is the laxative, and you DO NOT want that going into you if you're about to bottom. It will make you shit for the next hour and you're going to be absolutely miserable

Step 2: refill it from water from the sink/shower. I personally like to use the sink and sit on the toilet to push it out, but I know some people like to keep it all in the shower. Water temperature is extremely important. Too hot you'll burn your insides, too cold you'll freeze

I like to use water a little cooler than room temperature, but that's a personal preference. Experiment with different temperatures and find what works for you

Step 3: Push the head of the douche all the way into your ass. If you don't push it all the way in, you'll run the risk of water not going into your hole and just running down your leg. It's not an enjoyable sensation and it's a waste of time

Fleet enemas come pre-lubed to make your life a little easier, but you're going to want to have lube on hand because you'll have to repeat this until you're done

Step 4: squeeze. Some people like to squeeze as hard as possible to try to shoot it as far as possible. I like to start soft and build up momentum. This is another area where you figure out what works for you

Step 5: Hold. I like to hold the water in me for about 10 seconds. A lot of people don't do this, but I've found that it usually cleans more than if you just squeeze it into you then immediately push it out

Step 6: Squat and push. As I said before, I like to sit on the toilet when I do this, but if you're in the shower be sure to squat down. I like to be on the toilet because you can easily assess what's coming out of you and how many more rounds you'll have to do

It's also helpful to actively push the water out like you're trying to push out a really big poop. This will dramatically reduce the residual water that stays in you

A lot of the time you'll see some things come out of you that aren't poop. Usually it's mucus from the lining of your cavities. I like to douche until I can go 3 consecutive rounds with nothing coming out of me

Step 7: Sit. Once you're done getting everything out, it's really helpful to sit around for the next 5 minutes or so to let any residual water drain out of you. Every time I haven't done this, water has dripped out of me either on the way to the hookup or during it 🤪🤪

And finally, a note about painting someone. Yes it's annoying and you have to stop, but it happens to everyone. It's uncomfortable as fuck, but NEVER let a top demean you for it. They're literally shoving their dicks into poop shoots. They know the risks

Most of them are really sweet and will help you clean up and let you shower and all of that, but if they're obnoxious let me know their name and address. I'll fuck them up

STAYING CLEAN
I got a lot of questions about how to stay douched for several hours. Unless you're going from dick to dick to dick, it's not that easy. If you clean out well, you have about 2-3 hours before you need to start thinking about cleaning out again

The only way I know to stay clean for up to 8 hours aside from not eating for the 8 hours before your initial douche is to clean out beyond your rectum and into your colon. This is also what you have to do when you're taking massive dicks/fists

For this, you'll want a shower attachment. It's extremely difficult without one. I'm not a very familiar on methods of douching this deep, so if anyone wants to drop some knowledge here, please do. All I know is that it takes forever and you want a shower douche

Another helpful thing for staying clean for long periods of time is Imodium. It's an anti diarrhea supplement that you can buy at any drug store. I've only taken it once because I don't mind redouching when necessary

RELAXING
A lot of people asked questions on how to relax so that they can take a dick. There's no one size fits all answer, so you'll have to do some self exploration into what helps you, but here are some things I've done/heard of

1. Focus on your breath. Think of bottoming like yoga. In yoga you stretch your muscles, in bottoming you stretch your hole muscles. Breathe deeply in your nose and out your mouth. It will take your mind off of what is happening and your muscles will automatically relax

2. Rimming. First of all, rimming should be a requirement. It feels about 80% as good as bottoming but requires 2% of the effort. If your body is actively clenching, rimming is a great way to get it to calm down. Make him rim you for about 5 minutes and you'll notice a difference

Also, bottoms, you can rim your top IF they're being good to you. Almost everyone likes to get their ass eaten

3. Making out. This is easier in some positions than others, but it's extremely helpful. It pre-occupies your mind and makes you relax. It's especially effective in missionary when the top is putting his weight on you, but works in every position

Honorable mention 1: Fingering. I refuse to let anyone finger me because I absolutely hate the way a finger feels, but some people find it helpful. BE SURE THERE IS LUBE ON THE FINGER. Tops are morons and often think they can just slam a dry, bony finger right into your ass

And no, if you are having trouble relaxing, SPIT DOES NOT COUNT AS LUBE

Honorable mention 2: poppers. I'll do more with them later, but they'll definitely open you up. The problem with poppers is that they're a short term fix. If you're new, after about 45 seconds your hole will start to close and you'll be at square 1

POSITIONS
Everybody has different favorites because every body is slightly different. I'm going to give my favorites with why I like them, but this is an area where it's extremely important to explore what works for you

Doggy
Originally I fucking hated doggy but it grew to be my second favorite. It's a good starting position because the top can usually see exactly where your hole is, and it has the easiest access to your prostate

Pros: Prostate access, hole visibility, easy to be rough
Cons: Difficult to make out

On your stomach
My number 1 from day 1. It works the best with my internal anatomy. The dick doesn't push up against any of my walls and I can get my hole absolutely demolished

Pros: You literally just lay there, easy to be rough, similar prostate access as doggy, they can wrap their arm around your neck and choke you, and easy-ish to make out
Cons:

Missionary
Not my favorite but I get why people like it. It's another really good place to start because of hole visibility and you can wrap your hands around their thighs and that will give you more control over how they go

Pros: Eye-contact/intimacy, easiest to make out, most body contact, they can go realllllllly deep
Cons: they can go realllllllly deep, downward curved dicks can hit uncomfortable spots

Riding
I personally believe that bottoms should not have to put in that much effort since we spend 20-60 minutes prepping before sex, so I don't do it often. I also have a bad knee so it hurts. It's good for beginners because you have the most control

Pros: Total control
Cons: Everything else

LUBE
Lube is amazing. Lube is important. Lube is necessary. Unless you as a bottom know that you can just use spit/no lube, do not let a top try to enter you with out it.

I call myself a lube queen because I ask for more lube the moment things start to get slightly uncomfortable. You as a bottom NEED to communicate when things don't feel right, and lube will solve 9/10 of your problems. Communicating is the key to good sex

There are two major genres of lube, water and silicone. If you are using condoms, you must use water. Silicone will mess with the condom. If you're bareback, you can use either. Most people going bareback prefer silicone because water based will dry and you reapply more often

The problem with silicone is that it is really difficult to clean out of sheets and to get off of your skin. It feels better for me when I'm bareback, but if I'm hosting I will always use water because it's so much easier to clean

This is the lube I've been using recently. It's fucking amazing. It's water based, but I've never had to reapply more than once. That one time I had to reapply was during an hour and a half long session when I was just getting railed misterb.com/en/mister-b-lu…

Okay, now that I'm done with all the necessities, I'm going to take a quick break from this then get into any specific questions y'all have DMed me that I haven't answered yet in this thread

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My quick break turned into a 3 hour nap which was very needed because I got 3 hours last night. I’ll get to individual questions when I get to my Airbnb ☺️

Usually I don’t need to douche again unless I can feel that there’s something I missed the first time

Lots of lube and practice

This question made me realize I forgot to write about poppers. Poppers are inhalants you can buy at pretty much any gay sex store. They give you a really powerful head rush and make you insanely horny

They’re amazing when you’re bottoming because they loosen you up a lot and you can get absolutely demolished while on them. They aren’t great for your overall health, but they aren’t that bad either

I personally love them. They’re really fun and they make me feel like a whore that’ll do anything for a dollar. They make everything kinda slur together and it’s really fun. They’re also fun to use recreationally when you’re out dancing

Poppers are a vasodilator which means they expand your blood vessels and cause more oxygen to get delivered to your tissues. If you’re already taking a vasodilator (viagra) they’re EXTREMELY dangerous and a lot of people die from mixing them

Yes I do notice a difference between cut and uncut. Uncut guys usually have less friction once they’re inside, but cut guys can usually pack a harder punch since there’s no foreskin affecting their movements

No

I can be sexually satisfied without cumming, so I usually don’t cum. I have a pretty strong refractory period after cumming, so my hole will immediately close up and usually my hole will get sore if I bottom and cum

I’ve been on prep for a year and a couple months. I’ve never noticed a side effect. Part of being on prep is that you get tested for STIs every 3 months, but if I feel an itch on my hole I’ll go to the clinic and get tested within a couple days

Rarely