listen up fellas.
while there are plenty of DL misogynists who put on a good front & then act shitty one on one, theyre *not* the majority. most toxic men are p clearly shitty & if a dude is being misogynistic it’s rly not on women & femmes to tell u not to be pals w him
and i get it. it’s real hard to accept the fact that this person u at least kinda like is also a misogynist.
in leftist spaces they’re maybe not as blatant as in the rest of the world where dudes are more overt w their misogyny, but they’re hard to miss if ur paying any attention.
so please enjoy this handy guide to misogynistic tells from ur host Kit Snicket.
a. how does he talk to women & femmes? is he a mansplainer? does he talk over them? does he practice active listening or does he just wait for them to stop talking so he can say whatever he wants to say?
a. does ur friend know a single woman anarchist other than lucy parsons, emma goldman, or rosa luxembourg & can he actually tell u anything about them? this is especially important if he’s one of those mfers that reads theory.
a. does ur friend seem to always bring up what women & femmes look like at times other than instances where it’s relevant, like when he’s trying to describe them to someone who might know them?
we ALL internalize the fuckery of our society & its a forever process to unlearn that shit & push back on ur privilege. pobodys nerfect, but we can all try our best.
seriously. do it on ur own, don’t wait for a woman to tell u ur friend sucks.
men listen to other men more than to women. pay attention. do the right thing.
IT SHOULD NOT BE OUR JOB TO TELL U TO COLLECT UR HOMIES.
if u feel like u learned from this, a great way to acknowledge that is to send this tired ass hooker some money.